Mil drama

We dint let our MIL know that we were expecting our second one.But she planned her vacation around my due date and she is here with us from day one of our baby.She already complained twice to my husband that i am not letting her to hold my baby.This was when the baby was just 7 days old.She is not helping me with anything else , but interested in holding the baby all the time.I told her it will be helpful if you can free up some of time with cooking and housework, so i can spend more time with the baby.We do have a three year old who is going to daycare M-F, she is least interested in playing or engaging with him.Since the baby is two weeks old today, i was keeping her on the Momaroo baby swing near to my husband office, baby started crying and within a minute MIL rushed and tried to take her from the swing.I was near to swing patting her and my husband was watching us.I told her no need to hold the baby now and she just left and i can see that she was grumpy already, noticing that husband told me to give baby and i tried and she said no need.

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I think she needs to respect your boundaries and she needs to stop being so focused on the baby.
My inlaws where exactly the same when I gave birth they just had tunnel vision eyes for baby and couldnt see what was happening around them ( I wasn't comfortable/I needed support with house stuff, wanted to be left)
This ended up in us falling out.
I would just sit down with her and talk and tell her you get she's excited about the baby but you need support with other stuff right now not just her holding the baby!

Is it normal for me to feel in way that i dont like my baby to be held by anyone else other than me and my husband?We dont have a fourth person at home to test this out.But anything to do with MIL just irritates me

Absolutely not wrong, the first few weeks are where you learn to bond with the baby, your hormones are crashing and healing and you should be in your baby bubble with your family (you, your husband and son) I can't believe she has come to stay so soon, I think that's so selfish and your feelings are absolutely valid. Especially because shes not helping you guys in any way and ignoring your son that's awful. I would definitely speak to her or ask your husband to sit and explain to her. She's been through child birth herself so it's sad she cannot relate.

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