Baby daddy issues.
I just need to rant.
Me n my baby daddy have been together for a year and a half and we have a 4month old child and he has his 5year old child that we have full time. I’m not trying to complain by any means because I’m thankful I’ve been able to be a SAHM the last 4 months n I get that thrown in my face constantly moral of the story I go back to work this week and i ultimately feel lost and not myself and my baby daddy doesn’t really help matters I do everything with the kids he takes his son out with him when he goes somewhere but I’m always stuck at home with the baby because he goes n does things that a toddler can do but a baby can’t. He doesn’t spend time w me or the baby and I feel like me n my child aren’t wanted around but anytime I have tried to leave him (bc he cheated in the past idk if he still is) he’s told me he will get full sole custody of my child n I don’t think that’s fair to me when I haven’t done anything wrong. Also anytime I ask him to watch the baby while I shower (15 mins max) it’s always “I’m tired” or “I’m dirty” he has not changed a SINGLE dirty diaper he’s fed the baby twice and that was in the hospital after I had the baby and he’s only held the baby and played with the baby 6 times max, I just feel like me n my child aren’t wanted around here. I just feel alone and I’m not trying to complain bc I don’t have things hard and someone always has it worse than me but me n my child get no attention whatsoever from him and anytime baby cries he just yells for me and doesn’t even try to calm the baby down.
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Girl honestly, reading this made my heart hurt for you. 😭 And please stop telling yourself you’re “complaining” or that someone has it worse. You’re allowed to be overwhelmed. You’re allowed to want help. You’re allowed to want your partner to actually parent with you.
And the part about him telling you he’s going to get full custody if you leave really bothers me. That sounds like he’s using your fear of losing your baby to keep you from leaving. Your baby isn’t just going to be taken from you because you decide you don’t want to stay in a relationship. Please don’t let him convince you that you have no options.
You’re doing EVERYTHING for that baby. You’re not asking him to babysit his own child for 15 minutes so you can shower because you’re being needy. That is literally his baby too. You deserve to be able to shower, eat, sleep, go somewhere, and have a life outside of being a mom.
Girl, and honestly I really doubt he’s going to want full custody once he realizes what FULL custody actually means. 😭 Like, this man won’t even watch his own 4-month-old for 15 minutes so you can shower, hasn’t changed a dirty diaper, has barely fed the baby, and apparently just yells for you when the baby cries. Taking you to court and saying “I’m getting full custody” is VERY different from actually being the primary parent 24/7.
I would so get full custody of your baby just in case I’ve been in awful situations when I had my first baby. I usually put my baby in a bouncer or walker or play pen when I take a 10-15 minute shower or do laundry just an idea!!😊🫶🏼
i would say if you actually plan on leaving start documenting everything you do for that baby. documenting what he do and don’t do for the baby. just in case he does try to fight for custody you would already have evidence as to how he treats yall
He sounds like an abusive controlling asshat and you deserve better. Get custody discretely if possible and then get the hell out of there. Trust me, it’s worse to be lonely with another person than it is to be alone yourself. It should always be a team effort. This is not you complaining at all. You’re doing it all. My heart is with you 💜
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I just need to rant.
Me n my baby daddy have been together for a year and a half and we have a 4month old child and he has his 5year old child that we have full time. I’m not trying to complain by any means because I’m thankful I’ve been able to be a SAHM the last 4 months n I get that thrown in my face constantly moral of the story I go back to work this week and i ultimately feel lost and not myself and my baby daddy doesn’t really help matters I do everything with the kids he takes his son out with him when he goes somewhere but I’m always stuck at home with the baby because he goes n does things that a toddler can do but a baby can’t. He doesn’t spend time w me or the baby and I feel like me n my child aren’t wanted around but anytime I have tried to leave him (bc he cheated in the past idk if he still is) he’s told me he will get full sole custody of my child n I don’t think that’s fair to me when I haven’t done anything wrong. Also anytime I ask him to watch the baby while I shower (15 mins max) it’s always “I’m tired” or “I’m dirty” he has not changed a SINGLE dirty diaper he’s fed the baby twice and that was in the hospital after I had the baby and he’s only held the baby and played with the baby 6 times max, I just feel like me n my child aren’t wanted around here. I just feel alone and I’m not trying to complain bc I don’t have things hard and someone always has it worse than me but me n my child get no attention whatsoever from him and anytime baby cries he just yells for me and doesn’t even try to calm the baby down.
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