MIL has less than ideal personal hygiene

Man id use emojis too.. dont be afraid to talk to your spouse about stuff like that. Ask him how often does your mom bathe straight up or if she intermediary showers or if she's protesting for world peace by not showering?. 🤢🦨👃🏽😩🤱🏽🫢

My ex FIL (I say ex, because we arent in contact with him anymore) used to smell musty and mothbitten because he sat around doing nothing all day festering. He had death breathe because he clearly overlooked brushing his teeth. He is a single male, retired, no hobbies, no friends and enjoys his own company sitting indoors doing nothing. But that's no excuse for poor hygiene.

We used to see him once a fortnight and he couldn't even brush his teeth for that one occasion. It used to make me feel physically sick smelling him in my home and on my children and where possible he was avoided like the plague. Obviously he thinks I am a villain but it is not fair on my children nor me to have to put up with it. I had the conversation with my partner about how strongly I felt about it and he completely agreed and was on my side.
My partner and his sister had the conversation with their father but nothing changed and his hygiene is still incredibly poor. Ultimately some people never change!!

I would straight up tell hubby to tell her, to shower before she comes next. She should get the hint and say okay, she *shouldnt* question it, it should be a very simple ask actually. The problem only arises if she refuses. I’d start with that. “Mama next time you come see us can you just make sure to shower that morning, thanks”. That should be enough hint for most people, embarrassingly enough that someone has to ask you to do that. I have long nails, I have a nail brush there next to the hand wash so I can thoroughly brush the underside of them as I wash my hands coz I know just washing them, isn’t enough. People w long nails need to brush under them too. I scrub under them w a nail brush. Perhaps buy one and leave it next to your hand wash, it’s only a couple $.