Can a 4 years old have badness inside/be a bad person already?

My friends daughter is only 4 but is really cruel. Always has to make someone feel bad or less, forcing them to give her what they have, excluding them, she is always so serious even with adults like she hates everyone and everything and only smiles if she is doing something bad. She makes her friends beg for food for instance and when my daughter runs excited to see her she looks at her with disgust and walks away (even if she later tries to find her) another small thing she tries to get my attention copying things that my daughter just done like asking me to wash her hands (I think is a competition with my little one) and she has 0 respect for other adults. For instance her mum asked me to help her as she was in a dangerous bit of the playpark and her mum was feeding the baby. She said in a very rude way: go and sit with my mum over there. I'm pulling my daughter away from her just now because I know my daughter loves her but also causes her stress as when they are together my daughter has episodes she wouldn't have afterwards. Opinions please

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Honestly, at that age I don’t think it’s her fault. I think she’s just spoilt

It’s all based on behavior from the parents/caregivers. Are they dismissive? Only correct her with no other interaction, causing a negative loop of “bad” behavior for attention? Do they do everything for her, or give in when she screams and cries when they say no?

There's a chance the baby could also be attributing to her attitude and behavior. If shes jealous or if acting out is what gets them to notice her, shes gonna do it. Kids arent born bad.

There’s an interesting episode about this topic on the show ‘New Amsterdam’ season 2, ep 5

https://youtu.be/sTsvvUzQpFQ?is=ueNQiiFKfDSQwufQ

Making friends beg for food, being really cruel etc doesn’t sound normal for 4yo behaviour.

I would have done the same as you tbh and kept my kid away. I guess only time will tell if it’s a parenting issue or something else.

I mean some of this is somewhat normal —the copying, the having a hard time sharing, etc.—for this age. Kids really only engage in parallel play until about 4 anyway; this is the age at which the really learn those skills, and those skills aren’t easily learned sometimes. Other behaviors— not respecting other adults, the bad attitude, the mean streak— that tells me she’s just not being raised right. She is probably super spoiled at home. Is she a bad person already? Heck no, she’s only 4! Does she have an uphill battle ahead of her if she’s not being raised well? Yeah…

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Can a 4 years old have badness inside/be a bad person already?

My friends daughter is only 4 but is really cruel. Always has to make someone feel bad or less, forcing them to give her what they have, excluding them, she is always so serious even with adults like she hates everyone and everything and only smiles if she is doing something bad. She makes her friends beg for food for instance and when my daughter runs excited to see her she looks at her with disgust and walks away (even if she later tries to find her) another small thing she tries to get my attention copying things that my daughter just done like asking me to wash her hands (I think is a competition with my little one) and she has 0 respect for other adults. For instance her mum asked me to help her as she was in a dangerous bit of the playpark and her mum was feeding the baby. She said in a very rude way: go and sit with my mum over there. I'm pulling my daughter away from her just now because I know my daughter loves her but also causes her stress as when they are together my daughter has episodes she wouldn't have afterwards. Opinions please

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