Do you thank your husband for doing tasks you would’ve had to do?
Do you say thank you when he does something that you think he should’ve just done but you had to ask him to do? Lately I’ve been trying to be kinder about the way I communicate to my husband and a big thing has been me just trying to ask him to do things instead of being upset and snapping about having to do them or just telling him to do it. I feel torn because I don’t get thanked for doing everything else, but I know he likes the acknowledgment and it makes me seem nicer in his eyes but I also feel like I’m parenting him too when I have to ask him to do things and even tho I am thankful he did it, I don’t want to have to ask. He’s the type of guy that wants me to just make him a list of things to do but I just feel like he’s acting like a child when I do. I don’t want to micro manage him but I think that’s what he wants, even tho he wants to do everything on his schedule, I have to still tell him what to do. Part of me feels like I’m enabling bad habits but is this common in relationships? Newly married and new parents so we are still figuring out things together.
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We both say thank you. Sometimes men just don’t think about what needs to be done. My husband will say like what do you want to clean and in my head I’m like you have eyes look and see the mess but they need more specific on what to do. So even though I am the one that does everything when he’s at work and I don’t get thanked all the time I still try to thank him and in return it helps him remember to also thank me. And sometimes he’ll see a big difference in something and thank me. And not about getting thanked I don’t think. It’s always nice when you do. But I need to lead by example and thank him first
My husband and I had similar issues of me needing to tell him but he has ADHD and so do i 😅we ended up getting a chore chart for the fridge we made on a whiteboard haha it’s worked well for us so far! as far as saying thank you, we both always try to tell the other we appreciate the other and our thank yous
We both say thank you, I think it’s just polite and lets the other person know we appreciate them and recognised the labour. Been together 11 years and always done it.
I clicked yes, even though we do mostly thank eachother reciprocally. I make sure to always share my appreciation more often than I think his brain prioritizes it.
I would if we actually helped 😂
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I received an email just now from the estate agent confirming a viewing booking for us of the property, my partner has booked another viewing for next week without mentioning to me. He is now telling me he is going with a specialist contractor to view and that I can’t go. It’s not a question, he is telling me I’m not going.
I have said I want to go, because I would like to view the property again (all things considered like redecorating etc it’s helpful to view again know we are actually buying this one). I’ve told him I won’t disturb him with the contractor and that I’ll do my own thing but he’s adamantly told me I am not coming.
I can’t understand why he has a problem with me coming. He is telling me that if I want to view it then he will book a 3rd viewing for us to go, but I have said what’s the point of doing that when I can just go along to the viewing next week when he’s already going there??
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Her father doesn’t know what to do as he feels her bio mum should know but Her bio mum can get very confrontational and agitated very quickly and he doesn’t know how to approach it or if he should?
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