Sex after having a baby
This might be tmi but im super self conscious.
I’m 4 months PP and me and my husband have not had sex yet. I really want to and I can tell he does too, but he’s not rushing me what’s so ever.
I had 2nd degree tears and needed stitches. When I’m wiping down there, I can FEEL my vaginal hole is bigger. I can feel it’s not the same. My fingers slip in so easily. It’s making me conscious about how sex is definitely not going to be the same anymore, would it even feel pleasurable for me and my husband?
I know it sounds crazy but is there even just ONE person who can relate?
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I was extremely nervous after having each kid I waited 10-12 weeks each time my first baby it was sooo painful after which was due to an internal tear so things were super tight. My second and third wasn’t as bad but I want to also add the vagina is a muscle. Lastly I can easily put fingers inside mine as well that has nothing to do with being loose if you’re relaxed it might seem “loose” but you’re simply relaxed, which is good. I would just give it a try. You don’t want to be tight it’s actually super painful.
i’m only 4 weeks pp so i haven’t tried having sex yet but i can tell mine is different also, it’s supposed to be girl! we had a major trauma to the area and created and pushed life though a very small opening. it’s normal. our body will never be the same but it’s not supposed to be, that’s just nature 🥰 don’t be hard on yourself, focus more on your love with your husband and even if it feels different than before it isn’t going to feel “bad” for either of you that’s for sure.
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Sex after having a baby
This might be tmi but im super self conscious.
I’m 4 months PP and me and my husband have not had sex yet. I really want to and I can tell he does too, but he’s not rushing me what’s so ever.
I had 2nd degree tears and needed stitches. When I’m wiping down there, I can FEEL my vaginal hole is bigger. I can feel it’s not the same. My fingers slip in so easily. It’s making me conscious about how sex is definitely not going to be the same anymore, would it even feel pleasurable for me and my husband?
I know it sounds crazy but is there even just ONE person who can relate?
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