Silent Treatment

We didn’t have sex when he wanted to on Friday night so he hasn’t spoken to me since. 😕

Backstory…my day on Friday started at 6am. Starting with getting the kids ready for school, followed by a zillion errands & chores when I got back home that I didn’t finish until well into the evening. After dinner, i get our youngest ready for bed & it’s a struggle getting her to sleep bc she’s not feeling well. I finally get her to sleep around 12:10am. I’m SPENT at this point so I go to our bedroom & lay in the bed close my eyes just to unwind. 12:13am my husband strolls into the room expecting sexy time. He says “are you really sleeping right now?” I say “😑 I’m trying to” He leaves the room about 2 minutes later & doesn’t come back. He hasn’t spoken to me since. This feels like manipulation 🤔

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It 100%% is and he shouldn’t be acting that way. 🚩

It is coercive control

It is 100% manipulation. You deserve to be treated with more care. You are not a machine to fulfill his desires.

Is he another child? He needs to grow up and 1) read the room and 2) participate in raising his children

I hate this. My ex made me feel guilty about lack of sex when I was pregnant and sick and managing our toddler. He totally framed it as he just wanted to feel close and wanted to feel desired beyond just being a dad. Like ok but sex isn’t the only form of intimacy… and then the pressure would make me want it less and less. Then it just got worse and worse, to the point where I had panic attacks and he made THAT the problem. Total narcissist. I left him at 9 months pregnant with our second. He still tries to make me miserable but at least I’m not being pestered for sex and punished with the silent treatment and weird behavior anymore. lol

Who wants sexy time when u bein up at the crack off dawn and got a child that not well...

The fact you’ve even felt the need to justify here how tiring your day was. Girl you don’t need any reason to say no. Awful behaviour from him

Feel like there is more to it. You should just talk to him and see what the issue is.

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