When your family members or, trusted friends babysit your child(ren). Do they respect your boundaries?

For the important stuff yes but odd stuff they do differently (slightly later bedtime, tv closer to bedtime). I was most bothered about naps etc when my daughter was younger.

She's now just gone 4 (no naps for ages) and I'm a lot less bothered about being so strict on my boundaries when at their house.

In terms of set mealtimes I personally am not bothered cos sometimes plans change or they end up eating at a different time cos of the days plans. As long as they are fed.

If they didn't at all they wouldn't be looking after my child.

My husband and I have come to accept that all of our rules don’t quite apply at the grandparent’s houses… and we’re ok with it. We remember being a little spoiled by our grandparents as kids and we’re happy our kids will have that same experience. If Grandma can’t sneak some extra cookies to her grandkids then what has this world come to really?

As long as my kids are kept alive, I don't really care 😆

I only trust my mother because I know she does everything. My mother in law however, I will never let her baby sit because the few times I've tried for a couple hours, the woman can't even feed my child properly. It's just finding people you trust and enforcing boundaries

They do or they get cut off. My mom abuses kids so we cut her off, my father disrespects kids to their faces and he chose vitriol over love/family. My husband's mom however listened to my requests.

My mom absolutely does. My dad less so - he's more likely to forget about nap times or try to sneak her a bite of chocolate icing - but she constantly reminds him that he's not the parent and he doesn't get to make that choice.

Not at all, that's why we rather pay a babysitter.

Nope so that’s why no one takes care of them besides me and my hubby !
When they will be older (at least more than 3?) it won’t matter this much but for now they are too young