Am I in the wrong?

I’m definitely not a no sugar parent but I’m also sure I wouldn’t have given a donut for breakfast at 14 months old 🫣😅

That's not a breakfast. If I saw my partner doing this for my 13mo I would also be upset

Aggreeed^^^

I mean… I’m tired pretty much every morning (chronic fatigue from pcos) and I would still not give my daughter a donut for breakfast at any age… and I think if I saw my husband doing that, yeah I would probably be pretty mad too. It’s a bit too easy to fall into the trap of “oh I’m tired, I’m just going to give my kid crap for breakfast/lunch/dinner”.

If he was around he could've made your child breakfast, but also I wouldn't have given a donut so young either. But ultimately he will be fine right.

Yeah donut is a special occasion food not a breakfast.
Last thing you need is kid throwing tantrums in mornings because he wants a donut instead of healthy option.

It happens but yeah a donut is definitely a treat. It’s not a habit so it’s fine. My 22 month old has had one twice in his life and it was because we were in a rush and were going to eat brunch after church. But I usually feed him really early on church days. He just wasn’t ready to eat that day

I’m pretty sure most of us have done things/ given our children things to eat that others absolutely would not. You’re human, parenting is exhausting at times… it doesn’t sound like you are anyway but do not beat yourself up about this please!

A donut??? Leftover???

I mean it's not that exhausting to throw some cereal in a bowl or butter on toast?

I would not be giving any child regardless of age a donut for breakfast, and definitely not one so young. Breakfast is the easiest meal to prepare. Do better - your partner has every right to be annoyed.

(You asked for opinions on a matter that most people here disagree with you on. Learn the lesson.)

That’s totally fine! My 14 month old ate half my apple cider donut today. She loved it and I don’t feel the slightest bit guilty because it’s just a rare treat. People need to lighten up a bit.

or the times I’ve had to give my head strong 2 year old chocolate to get him in the car etc 😂

I think it at least partly depends on what you’ve agreed upon in terms of food you give your child. In our family we avoid added sugar until age 2, without being ridiculous about it. Like, I’m sure the bread in the bread basket at a restaurant has a bit of sugar, and I’ve certainly given my kids that before age 2. I just buy things at home that are easy to find without added sugar.

Some people start giving kids sugar in moderation earlier on and that can be ok too. Regardless, he shouldn’t have been rude or mean about it, but if it’s something you’d discussed before then I could see why he would be annoyed. Unless you literally had nothing else suitable to feed him for breakfast.

Carbs are necessary for our diet. They are a fast acting fuel for our bodies. But if that’s the only thing you eat then you will have energy crashes and crazy blood sugar spikes. Carbs should always be prepared with protein and healthy fats.
The carbs can give you a boost of energy to get up and go, but the protein and healthy fats carry you through your day and to your next meal.
With carbs alone (especially ultra processed and sugary treats (donuts are treats, not meals)) do not contain what is needed for a person, let alone a child to be satisfied and have long lasting energy for their day.

If my husband gave my child a donut for breakfast, I'd let him be the one to deal with a hungry, miserable toddler on a sugar crash.