Breastfeeding

I have a 3 week old baby who is breastfed only but seems to cluster feed and seems really unsettled most times. I know shes getting enough milk and is also gaining weight but the constant crying is frustrating and makes me want to cry. I am trying to feed her more upright so she is not laying down and also keeping her upright after feeds but any advice? As I feel like im failing as a mother 😢

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Do you think she could have a little bit of colic?? X

Are you burping her in between feeds? A common misconception is that bf babies don’t need burping like formula fed. My baby is bf and needs regular burping. She does massive burps 😂 x

My 3 week breastfed baby gets a lot of wind while feeding and needs burping multiple times in the middle of feeds. He gets really unsettled when needing burping

-Reclined position
-Pace feeding / taking them off the breast during feeds to wind them
-Taking the baby off when you can feel your letdown (let it go into a muslin)

All of these things will hopefully help. Remember breastfeeding is hard and you’re doing a great job at trying to persevere with it.

Also remember cluster feeding is normal but that doesn’t make it less hard. I cried so much because I have a 98th percentile baby who fed every hour almost for 9 weeks. It does get better ❤️‍🩹

How much is she burping post feed, if she isn't getting it up could be causing gas that comes out the other end and be very painful. Try different burping techniques and also ways to break wind like bicycle legs and gentle abdo stroking/massage.
Good luck hopefully helps.

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