Appointments Alone

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I did a lot of my sons appointments alone and I am doing all of my daughters alone as my partner can’t get time off or has his kids from his ex.
I found it did get easier, if it’s the jabs you do get a break after the 16 week ones.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong if you need to cry, shows your little one that emotions matter. They tend to bounce back quicker than we do. I try to remember how important the thing is we’re going to and try to focus on that. While also having a good moan to some close friends- always helps.
Hope you’re ok 😊

Probably it's accepting the pain and trying to stay in the present and think this is a moment just for u and the baby. If u cry there you dont have to feel bad. IT happened to me and luckyly I felt supported by the doctors.

I go to all my appointments alone, because my husband can not take off time for the appointments and time to be home with me after the baby is born. It’s been this way for us for 14 years. I will say, in the beginning, I was so sad he was missing things, and felt alone, but when he was able to stay home with me for 2 weeks at a time, right after birth, the perspective changed. I always video the ultrasounds for him, and I bought a baby Doppler for home, so he can hear the babies heartbeat when he wants too. For me personally, him being around postpartum was way more important that the baby appointments. I’m sorry that you are feeling this way.

Have you considered a doula to be by your side?

I completely understand being sad about it. I’m in my third trimester and my husband travels for work and also has another child, so I’ve had to accept that he simply won’t be there for everything. If I go into labor early while he’s all the way in Germany for example, I’ll be doing it without him, and I don’t have family to fall back on either. But I had to change my perspective — I’m not carrying and birthing this baby because someone is beside me, I’m doing it because I’m her mother. Our bodies are literally built to carry, nourish and sustain our babies. A partner’s presence and support is beautiful and important, but I don’t want his absence to make me feel incapable of something I was already made to do. Feel your feelings, absolutely, but don’t let them take away from experiencing your baby. Sometimes we really do have to woman up and remind ourselves, “I can do this.” 🤍