Please help - breastfeeding first time mum

The first 2 nights with baby I’ve had to set alarms to feed her as she would happily just sleep all the way through without waking. Tonight she’s doing the opposite🤣
I’ll feed her, put her in her next to me, within 2 mins she’s crying and showing hunger ques. So I feed her again…the process continues. She’s been in and out of this next to me about 8 times now. I don’t think it’s got anything to do with hunger I think it’s just comfort because she will happily stay sleeping on me. (Bed sharing isn’t really an option as we only have a small double bed + share with our dog, it’s already too cramped so I really do want her to be able to sleep in her own safe space). I’ve got her in a love to dream swaddle too to try to settle her but doesn’t seem to be helping. Anything else I can try ??

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Silent Treatment

We didn’t have sex when he wanted to on Friday night so he hasn’t spoken to me since. 😕

Backstory…my day on Friday started at 6am. Starting with getting the kids ready for school, followed by a zillion errands & chores when I got back home that I didn’t finish until well into the evening. After dinner, i get our youngest ready for bed & it’s a struggle getting her to sleep bc she’s not feeling well. I finally get her to sleep around 12:10am. I’m SPENT at this point so I go to our bedroom & lay in the bed close my eyes just to unwind. 12:13am my husband strolls into the room expecting sexy time. He says “are you really sleeping right now?” I say “😑 I’m trying to” He leaves the room about 2 minutes later & doesn’t come back. He hasn’t spoken to me since. This feels like manipulation 🤔

What would you do?

We're struggling with how to arrange the rooms.

We have a 3 bed property.
We have the largest room.
Daughter (4) has the 2nd largest.
Smaller room is currently an office.

I'm pregnant.

Option 1: Office turns into baby room.
Option 2: Daughter moves into office, 2nd room gets turned into play room/baby room.
Option 3: They share biggest room (eventually). We move into 2nd room. Office turns into playroom.

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