Opinions! Caretaker transparancy

I noticed last week that one of the puppet books in a series my son has wasn’t anywhere (we often read a few at night before dinner, plus I just have an eye for detail). I casually asked the woman watching my child (he’s <1 year) during the day if she had seen it around. She paused and then said that she had taken it the other day on the stroller walk because he gets fussy halfway into walk and paused for “storytime” in a parking lot to break up the walk, something I hadn’t been told but I guess new she did. She then said she noticed when they got back it wasn’t in stroller, that he either tossed it or it slid from bottom. She went back on roads that night after work to see if she could find it and couldn’t and allegedly “already ordered another one.”

My thing is I don’t care that the book was lost, but I do feel unsettled now that she didn’t tell me herself the day it happened, that she didn’t notice the book fell when they walk on neighborhood roads with cars, and that she likely wasn’t going to tell me and just replace it hoping I wouldn’t notice.

Things get lost, but if she’s hiding losing a small book, is she going to share bigger things that happen? She’s been watching him several months and there are some negatives and some positives with her care, ups/downs, and I just feel uneasy now when I was trying to be positive since I had previously disclosed that trust and transparency were most important things to me with someone else watching him. I work remotely and she’s shared so far when he’s bumped his head on something playing and such, so I thought she was trying to be open about their day. Unbiased thoughts?

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Pre school

My Mum and sister are constantly asking me when my son is starting nursery. Do any other SAHMs constantly have family pressuring them to put their child in nursery? My son is 3 and a half and we are both happy with our little routine and he said he doesn’t want to go to nursery. Plus I want to make the most of our time together before he goes to school 🥺 Pros and cons to nursery? Will he struggle at school if he doesn’t go to a pre school first? We go on trips and to play groups so it’s not like he’s not social and he’s very clever for his age already knows the alphabet and can count etc.

what age do you think is appropriate for a child to be allowed to plug stuff into an electrical outlet on their own?

think like plugging in a lamp or a phone charger, etc.

When your family members or, trusted friends babysit your child(ren). Do they respect your boundaries?

To elaborate,
- If you have a baby/toddler that they put your child for a nap when needed/scheduale.
- They feed your children at the times when they would expect to eat (respect your childs meal times e.g. 12pm & 4pm)
- They don't give your child(ren) sweets/pop if they're not allowed those things.
- If your daytime potty trained child, still wears a nappy for bed, that they put a nappy on them.
- The list is endless to whatever your boundaries are for your child(ren).

Am I in the wrong?

Our son is 14 months and I was tired this morning and gave him a leftover krispy cream donut for breakfast, my husband saw and got upset about it. Was he overreacting or was I in the wrong? I didn’t think it was a big deal

Partner Going Back to Work

Hello! I'm 8 weeks pp and my partner is going back to work on Tuesday, he was only due to have a month off but I suffered from post partum depression so he took an extra month off to support me (I know I'm very lucky to have had him around for so long!). I'm feeling so anxious about it, he's a nurse so does 2 12 hour shifts a week and 2 8 hour shifts which is filling me with worry about of I can cope all day with the baby, I'm feeling a little better after starting medication and growing in confidence but I still haven't really took him anywhere on my own that wasn't just a walk around the park to get a coffee, I know they're are lots of groups in my area but I have this fear he will just scream and everyone will look at me as if I can't soothe my baby, I'm just after any tips to make the first week a bit more bearable on my own?

Feeling Frustrated!!!!!!

I have two children. My mam keeps making comments like “you’re sticking to the rule book, you’re supposed to let all that go with your second”

By the ‘rule book’ she means safe sleep guidelines, bottle prep, weaning at 6 months etc. I kept my oldests cot empty, made bottles as he needed them and started solids at 6 months exactly, never had any problems and so we’ve done exactly the same for my second and for some reason it’s very triggering for her. Recently my youngest has had a cold and the vapour rub we have is 6 months+ my youngest is only 4 months so we’ve not been able to use it. She’s constantly on at me “he’s the same size as some 6 months old he’ll be fine” and when i refused she throws the same “you’re supposed to be more relaxed with your second one it won’t do him any harm”

I’ve told her countless times to keep her useless opinions to herself. Why would I not follow safety and health guidelines? Why is she almost putting pressure on me not to? ITS SO ANNOYING