I need to hear it'll be okay ♡

I'm at a loss and for once I'm truly admitting I'm struggling! I've always managed to find my own way or stay strong for either myself or others but I'm absolutely fucking broken..
My MIL passed away a few days ago. She was not only my MIL but my daughters grandmother, my partners mother and my biggest support. She has been with me every week since my daughter was born. My daughter is 10 months next week and my own parents have seen her maybe 3 times. She was the one person I felt truly comfortable being around, even out of my own family.
When I met her, (12 maybe 13 years ago) I was coming from a bad place and my now partner was my best friend at the time. Him and his mum lived together in a 2 bedroom apartment. He told her my situation and she immediately told me to leave my living situation and welcomed me into theirs. The day I walked in, she sat on the balcony with me for hours. Sharing her shitty experiences and helping me through mine. I will never be able to express how grateful and how much she helped me in so many ways and then with my daughter, especially when things got hard, she was always there. Sometimes she would just show up to do dishes and leave. I'm trying my absolute hardest to stay strong for my daughter and partner. Especially my partner, there is this never ending guilt that I don't know if it's part of depression, post-partum or whatever but the guilt is like nothing I have ever experienced.. I'm hurting but it was his mum, he is obviously hurting on a level I won't be able to comprehend.. The same week he also started a new job which he can't take time off from because then we would have no income so that burden is weighing heavy on him and I don't know how I can help to lift it when I have a very breastfeed dependant bub. I know we all mourn differently but even he is concerned work is distracting him from that. How can I help him, how do I even help myself.. also posting anonymous, in case someone asks what about my parents. They both took up meth. It's just my partner and I now. I'm sorry for the long post, I had to get this out. Thanks 🩶

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Baby will not be put down!

My little one is 3 and a half weeks old and the last couple of days he will just not let me put him down without screaming, day and night.

I've tried swaddling (he didnt like it), tried applying pressure once he goes down (didn't work) and the obvious feed/ change nappy/ burp.

Does anyone have a magic way of getting him to lay by himself or can someone just reassure me it is just a phase!!

Cry it out

Has anyone ever actually tried it and does it work.

My LO is 5 months old and waking every 90 minutes in the night. 2 weeks ago it was taking 2 hours of crying to get her to sleep in my arms.

Has anyone had any success with CIO. I just feel like if we both get better sleep we will both be so much better for it. LO is so sad during the day when they are over tired and can't nap

No judgement please I just need a fix

Second hand pram sets/car seats

What are people’s opinions on second hand travel pram systems, particularly car seats and bases?

Most we are seeing in shops new are around £1200 which seem so expensive. I am seeing second hand ones for sale in great condition and barely used but am being ridiculed by family members for even thinking about a second hand car seat, even if barely used. Just open to peoples thoughts and opinions!

Formula flasks

I’m new to formula feeding I make bottles up at home but when out & about I use pre made bottles.
I want to be able to make formula bottles when out so I’ve bought the Nuby rapid cool and thermal flask. But the capacity of the flask is only enough for 1 feed without refilling it.

Where can I get a larger flask that keeps water above 70 degrees? I’ve searched online but they’re all up to 50 degrees.

Thank you in advance! X

Baby carrier

I m a FTM. She is 1 month old, the GP advised to keep her upright on my shoulder after every feed for more than 15 minutes, as she struggles with colic pain at times.
How do I make sure she is comfortable in the baby carrier with me? Or is there any tips to transfer her into the baby carrier? Any tips for anything relating to baby carrier would be greatly appreciated?

Am I the asshole for being nervous/ paranoid when my mother in law has my baby even when she’s just near him?

Hear me out, when I was pregnant she would always make jokes in the beginning and during my pregnancy. Saying, “oh this is our baby” and at first the way she would put it was funny but after a while it seemed possessive. So anytime she’s near him my skin crawls and when she’s holding him I can’t have a conversation with anyone because I’m so fixated on him making sure he’s okay. I don’t know, it’s probably PPA kicking my butt. Also I’ve stated multiple times he doesn’t need to be infront of a phone or tv because he’s 3 months old. Talk to him, play with him, yk. In return in a passive aggressive way I’ve been told that I’m wrong or “unfair because mummy gets to”.

I don’t know let me know y’all’s thoughts/ opinions or advice