Feeling so disconnected from my partner
Since birth 2 weeks ago, I have felt such dislike toward my partner. He is VERY supportive in terms of looking after our 4 yr old, doing loads round the house, seeing to baby whenever, taking lots of night shifts. I couldnt fault him AT all.
However emotionally/mentally I feel he doesnt understand and he is snappy with me, and I am feeling resentment toward him for unknown reasons other than the emotional disconnection
I told him and he said "im using birth and 9 months of pregnancy as an excuse" which really upset me and Im crying, but he just see's me crying or upset as nothing and "just hormones" and I get no comfort, nothing.
I cant see how we can go back to getting on atm, any advice?
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Hey! As hard as it might sound, you have to reconnect with him.
It sounds like he doesn’t have the strength, so you have to! Get close to him, do something that used to keep you close ( like look at photos, listen to a song…) and lower your tone of voice and ask him to listen to you, as you are speaking your heart out, and that requires courage, especially after giving birth!
You can do it!
This is a common time for partners to fight! Both of your worlds have changed. I get your perspective totally - you’ve given birth and you need someone to not be snapping at you in such a vulnerable time.
From his perspective he’s probably feeling undervalued and probably wants to hear that you think you can’t fault him and he’s doing great at XYZ. Stepping up post birth is what all great dads do they often don’t hear it.
In our hardest times I think both husband and wife just go into survival mode and then there’s no time to praise each other or really see each other. What we really need as women is to be emotionally supported and seen around this time in our lives too x
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Since birth 2 weeks ago, I have felt such dislike toward my partner. He is VERY supportive in terms of looking after our 4 yr old, doing loads round the house, seeing to baby whenever, taking lots of night shifts. I couldnt fault him AT all.
However emotionally/mentally I feel he doesnt understand and he is snappy with me, and I am feeling resentment toward him for unknown reasons other than the emotional disconnection
I told him and he said "im using birth and 9 months of pregnancy as an excuse" which really upset me and Im crying, but he just see's me crying or upset as nothing and "just hormones" and I get no comfort, nothing.
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