Annoyed at husband

Am I right to be annoyed? My husband went to work this morning. He then told me he was going for a lunch with someone at 1 pm and would come home from there, he said he’d be home a bit earlier than normal, probably 4 or 4.30. He came home at 5.15pm, he’s taking 45 minutes to an hour before he actually comes to take over care of the baby. The way I see it he’s just had a whole afternoon of having a nice lunch and probably having some drinks while I’ve been looking after the baby. He shouldn’t need 45 minutes to an hour when he gets home before he takes over. Am I right to be annoyed? he’s taking the time to go to the toilet, roll his tobacco, listen to a podcast in his office…. Etc

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Mess at home triggering husband

So I'm about 2 months after birth. I have a 3 year old and my recent baby. I have my toddlers toys in baskets around the home and I usually tidy up twice a day once midday then end of day. My toddler tips out the toy basket and it keeps triggering my husband as he can't stand the mess. I have explained that it's normal for toddlers to do this. He wants to throw out all the toys and leave her with a few. I explained that I've spent money on these toys and I'd rather she had them. Any advice?

Fall from bed

This morning my husband got out of bed and I was more asleep still than usual. Our little one has become more mobile and somehow managed to roll off of the bed between the bed and nightstand. It’s about 2ft and we have carpet. He’s about 6 months old, rolling, now somewhat crawling.

I heard it immediately got him and he barely cried. As soon as I picked him up he was smiling and giggling. He has been eating, looking at us, grabbing and kicking all like normal.

I don’t see any bumps or bruises and he seems generally okay and unbothered by the entire incident.

My husband is very upset that we let him fall. He isn’t directly blaming me but I know I’m the one who failed our son. The guilt is overwhelming and I feel sick to my stomach. He keeps saying things like “now anytime something is wrong we’re going to think it it’s because when he fell” which makes me more upset 😭

I’m going to call his pediatrician but has this happened to other moms? Please don’t join this to just make me feel worse, I’m already very down on myself about it.

What would you do?

I would love some advice as I really don’t know what to do. My husband’s family are all over from Prague, HK, Indonesia and we have a lunch booked with them tomorrow. My husband has said they now want to do dinner tonight. We have a 10 month old and a 4 year old. My 10 month old is at nursery today and doesn’t nap well and my 4 year old just started school yesterday. He wants us to pick them up and then go for dinner at 6pm (so unlikely we’ll get back before 8:30), and we will need to take the tube to get there. I know that both of my daughters will be grouchy and just wanting me the whole time so it will be utterly exhausting, and we will be pushing our 10 month old to her limit (she doesn’t nap on the go very well at all). My husband also then wants to stay out with his brother to watch a football game (although he said he wouldn’t do this if it was too much). It is incredibly rare that the whole family get together and this might be the last time as the mum is suffering from poor health. My gut is saying to look after my daughters and maybe opt out so that my husband goes and then they see us tomorrow. But I’m also conscious that they’ll all be really disappointed not to see us. Any thoughts?!

Food

Hey,
My baby is 7 months, she doesn’t like pureès, and I’m really unsure what to offer her ?
She is ready for food, as I spoke to my doctors, my health visitor, and she’s showing all signs, she will eat snacky things like wafers, and puffs, we’ve given weetabix a go which she was happy with, but I’m just unsure what to offer to a bit of a picky eater🙈
Any tips or advice will be appreciated😊xx

Baby not ready for weaning

My baby is a week away from 6 months and is only showing the sign of bringing toys to his mouth as being food ready. when we’re eating he has no interest at all, and i’ve tried a little spoon of a few purees and he just pushes them out of his mouth. I feel like i’m going crazy as so many relatives are telling me he’s ready, and he’s up through the night every 2 hours for a 7oz bottle but he’s just not ready yet? Anyone else in a similar boat?

Weaning onto solids

I’m getting prepared for when my little one gets to 6 months and is ready to start solids. How did you mums start with yours? Is it worth just trying one thing at a time e.g. puree food one week then mashed, finger food or can you do all 3 in one sitting so they can try it in all different ways? Any advice welcome :)