Back to work
I know this is really judgemental,. But I love working, I really want to go back but at the same time, I cannot even fathom leaving my baby.
The thing that I am judgemental on, is that I do not want to me one of them mums who just live on benefits for the rest of their lives, live in a council place and solely rely on council to help me out, have many children with different daddies because I have already left my baby daddy, I have already had so many emails asking when I am returning and I just don't know what to do. I break down into tears everytime I think about it because I know how judgemental I am being with it. I know that some mothers cannot help that and really do need it, but i also know mums who use benefits as a way to do fuck all. I don't even know what to say anymore...
I guess thanks for hearing me rant 😭😅
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You’ve paid into the system by working so accessing the benefit system to enable you to care for your child in their formative years to me is perfectly acceptable and should not be judged.
Like you the thought of going back to work makes me sick actually.
I am taking it as a 6 month trial on a part time basis to see how it feels/works and go from there. Is that an option for you?
From an American, if i could, I would. Be with your baby as long as you can. Like Dianne said youve paid into the system so one day the system could work for you
I’m planning on being a SAHM for a few years and I will have to use UC to be able to do that, I’ve been working since I was 15 and have paid my tax’s ect so in my eyes I’m entitled to do that considering other people never go to work and live off the benefit system forever, I’m not planning on this being a permanent thing as I’m studying to become an occupational therapist so when I do go back I’ll also be in a job that means more and helps more people than me going back to work into my hospitality job and will secure a good future for my daughter and future children
Claiming benefits doesnt automatically mean you leave your partner and have 4 different baby daddies. If you qualify, do it. I've paid in to the pot but dont qualify. I think anyone who has the opportunity to stay at home and wants to, should.
Any possibility you’re able to go back on a part time basis?
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Back to work
I know this is really judgemental,. But I love working, I really want to go back but at the same time, I cannot even fathom leaving my baby.
The thing that I am judgemental on, is that I do not want to me one of them mums who just live on benefits for the rest of their lives, live in a council place and solely rely on council to help me out, have many children with different daddies because I have already left my baby daddy, I have already had so many emails asking when I am returning and I just don't know what to do. I break down into tears everytime I think about it because I know how judgemental I am being with it. I know that some mothers cannot help that and really do need it, but i also know mums who use benefits as a way to do fuck all. I don't even know what to say anymore...
I guess thanks for hearing me rant 😭😅
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