Does sex ever return to normal?

Me and my partner used to have sex a lot, pretty much every time we saw each other (we were long distance but he spent every weekend at my house Friday night - Sunday evening). When I got to around 20 weeks pregnant it just stopped, he had mentioned he was scared of hurting the baby if he was on top, but we didn’t have sex for 6 months so even after baby was born. We eventually did after having baby (about 3 months after) but only a couple of times and it’s always after I’ve bought up the fact we just don’t do anything intimate anymore.
Since January we’ve been intimate 4 times.. the baby sleeps through the night so it’s not like we don’t have time.
I don’t doubt that he loves me one bit, but I’m starting to think he’s just not attracted to me anymore.
I don’t want to bring it up again because then we will just have sex, I’ll feel like he didn’t want to and just did it because I mentioned it, then it won’t happen again until I bring it up again..

Did this happen to anyone else? Any advice?

Read more on Peanut

The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of Peanut.

Learn more about our guidelines.

Trending

in our community

Looking for new friends

Hi all

Looking for some new mummy friends

37 years old and don't have many friends

Feel free to message

Avatar

2

3

1st birthday presents

What are we asking family for? birthday is november and obvs with Christmas close too. Don't want to ask for anything too expensive. But also want things she'll actually get something out of

Avatar

6

🗓️ Looking for a genuine friendship 🤍

Looking for a genuine friendship 🤍
Hi! I’m a stay-at-home mom living in Oshkosh, and I’m hoping to meet some new people and build a genuine, lasting friendship.
This is my second year living in Oshkosh and my third year in Wisconsin. I’m originally from the South, so moving here has been a bigger adjustment socially than I expected. I’ve tried some local resources and mom groups, but I’ve found it difficult to really break through the more reserved culture here and form meaningful connections. I’d love to find someone who is also looking for an actual friendship—not just someone to occasionally say hi to online.
I have two daughters, ages 6 and 5, a 14-month-old son, and I recently found out I’m pregnant again. I also occasionally have my stepdaughter with us three weekends a month. Life is definitely busy, but I genuinely love being present and available for my kids. I’m currently a stay-at-home mom, although I’ve considered working partly because I miss having regular adult interaction and opportunities to socialize.
One of the hardest parts for me is the winter. Once the snow arrives and outdoor activities and mom groups become less frequent, staying home can feel incredibly isolating. I’d really love to find a friend who enjoys getting together for coffee, taking the kids somewhere, going for walks when the weather cooperates, having a girls’ night, or even just hanging out at home and talking about life.
I’m not looking for a huge social circle. I’d much rather have a small number of genuine, reliable friendships where we can actually be there for each other.
If you’re also looking for a genuine friendship, feel free to comment or message me. I’m definitely willing to meet up and see if we click. I’d love to find someone who wants to build a real friendship and have someone to do life with. 🤍

Avatar

2

3

Lonely

So I'm posting this incognito because honestly I feel like a right loser.
I used to have friends I always had someone to talk to, to go out with, to have a text to reply to. I literally would do anything I could to help anyone. Then I moved to be with my husband and lost afew of them but made some more at work. Then we moved and had our children and one by one lost everyone I tried to meet up with people but when people forget about you, forget they made plans with you and don't turn up, are too tired to meet up, say they will see you and never arrange it, it all gets a bit too much and I stopped trying with them because at the end of the day it was me upset not them.
Now I don't work so can't make friends that way, I stay at home with my children, I have them, my husband and my mum to talk to.
School has been open 3 days now and everyday I see people talking, me I stand there by myself, I say hello how are you they answer but walk past. Yesterday I stood waiting and may as well have been invisible people just joined the queue in front of me.
I've met people on here one I thought was going to be a great friend but she turned nasty others just haven't progressed to anything. Honestly I don't know what's wrong with me I don't know why I'm the one stood alone. What's wrong with me. I think I just needed to put that all into words and I also hope it helps someone. If you see someone by themselves at the school gates smile, say hello, include them in your conversation because we don't know what others are going through or how they are feeling.

Avatar

5

6

Thoughts

I think I’m more than happy with my one daughter.

But every now and then I entertain the thought of another child because I miss pregnancy/newborn stage but then remember how difficult toddlers are. How comfortable we are and less money means less freedom. I worry I’ll regret not having anymore! It’s so hard.

Avatar

1

4

1st birthday and Christmas present

I’m so stuck on what to get my little one for her birthday and Christmas,
I’ve picked up a few items
Wooden afternoon tea set and some magnet tiles

Avatar

1

12

Read more on Peanut