How do people bring a new baby home when you already have a toddler?!
There is a 3 year and 1 weeks age gap between my children. I gave birth yesterday! Have come home this evening. Bed time has been diabolical. I don't know what I expected. But it wasn't this š
My 3-year-old is freaking out every single time the baby is crying. My exhausted husband is in the 3-year-old's room trying to get him to sleep and failing. It's now 3am. My newborn won't go in there next to me and is crying a whole bunch due to lots of new surroundings and smells etc. To be expected? Maybe! But how the hell do people do this š I had a C-section yesterday. In a whole bunch of pain. Looking like no sleep will be had by me. Feel worried! Any tips?!
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I feel for you mama,I guess itās going to get easier as the day goes by,it will definitely get better,hang in thereā¤ļø
Congratulations on your new bornš you are amazing š¤
Wow they let you go home early after a C-section. I bet thatās rough
Day by day it will get easier. Good luck to you x
Can you put white noise in your toddlers room to drown out the crying? Definitely make your bed a safe cosleeping area so you can get sleep if baby wonāt go in next to me x
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Childcare dilemma
My little one will need 3 days of childcare when I return to work next year and we have already reserved her a nursery spot for these days. My mother in law has previously commented about wanting to have my daughter for 1 day per week but for various reasons I would prefer for my daughter to attend nursery for all 3 as currently planned, which is what I feel most comfortable with right now. My dilemma is the upset/ tension this would potentially cause and that my partner doesnāt seem to think it will be an issue and has not had this conversation with her. I can sense she is waiting for this but he feels otherwise.
I also canāt help but wonder if my reasonings are unreasonable or not for this decision.. or if theyāre totally ok as Iām her Mum and I have to be comfortable with it. My partner is ambivalent on the decision and doesnāt mind either way. My reasons areā¦
1. I would like my daughter to have consistency in her week and not to be between my care, a relatives and then nursery (Iām aware many do this without issue)
2. I would like the flexibility of being able to drop off and pick up my daughter when Iām able to and early if i desire; it is also 5 minutes down the road rather than 25 minutes
3. My mother in law has been overly involved with my niece and tries to take over parenting (in my opinion) which I do not want to happen with us
4. I would not feel comfortable to challenge my mother in law if needed around the care she provided like I could with nursery
5. I donāt feel my mother in law is respectful of our parenting decisions and suspect she would go against these and seek to undermine them if looking after my daughter
6. I would rather my mother in lawās time with my daughter to be on a more informal basis; it will still be promoted, just around our lifestyle and what works for us
Has anybody made this decision for similar reasons?
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Would this bother you too ?
My partner and I are spending the weekend at my MILās with our 1yo, Friday afternoon until Sunday afternoon, so only two nights. We donāt see her loads as she has a very busy life, although sheās not completely absent from our lives.
Weāve brought a handful of toys with us, about 6. Sheās been playing in the lounge, so obviously thatās where the toys have ended up.
Last night before taking her upstairs for bath and bed, I put all the toys together in one section and tidied everything up.
Today weāve been out shopping and then had a BBQ with a few guests over. My daughter was playing with a shoebox which was left in the lounge, along with some of her toys. When it was time for bath and bed, I had to take her upstairs with my partner, but because thereās no crib or bedrail, I basically had to stay with her in the room. My partner was then out in the garden catching up with long-time friend who came to visit.
Later, my partner came upstairs and told me his mum had been complaining that weād left a mess in the lounge. Iām annoyed that she made a point of mentioning it.
I completely understand if weād absolutely wrecked the place, but it was literally a few of my 1yoās toys left in the area where sheād been playing.
If this was my house, I wouldnāt have said a thing. Iād actually see having my child's toys in the living room as a privilege and part of having her there. Obviously I appreciate that not everyone is the same and some people like their house kept a certain way.
But itās left a really sour taste in my mouth and has actually made me think Iād rather just not stay here anymore.
Am I being unreasonable for being annoyed that she complained about a few toys being left in the lounge? Or would this bother you too?
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Do you have a routine where one parent cooks while the other looks after the toddler?
Iām a stay-at-home mom, and my husband works from home or sometimes goes into the office. Iām with the 23 months old toddler all day, and after 5 p.m., when heās mostly finished with work, I start cooking dinner.
And somehow, thatās exactly when he decides to call his family. š The baby isnāt really included in the conversation, so while Iām cooking, I also have to entertain the toddler.
Iāve tried to bring this up, but he said what Iām saying is rubbish. Like, how am I supposed to cook and entertain the baby at the same time?
We ended up having a fight about it. Iām not saying he canāt talk to his family, but I feel like dinner time should be something we plan together, especially when thereās a toddler involved.
How do you guys handle dinner time? Do you have a routine where one parent cooks while the other looks after the baby?
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My understanding is that in spite of that, he can still call and text using WiFi.
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How do people bring a new baby home when you already have a toddler?!
There is a 3 year and 1 weeks age gap between my children. I gave birth yesterday! Have come home this evening. Bed time has been diabolical. I don't know what I expected. But it wasn't this š
My 3-year-old is freaking out every single time the baby is crying. My exhausted husband is in the 3-year-old's room trying to get him to sleep and failing. It's now 3am. My newborn won't go in there next to me and is crying a whole bunch due to lots of new surroundings and smells etc. To be expected? Maybe! But how the hell do people do this š I had a C-section yesterday. In a whole bunch of pain. Looking like no sleep will be had by me. Feel worried! Any tips?!
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First day at childminder
My girl is 11 months and starts her taster session on Monday for 2 hours.
My anxiety is really bad because she doesnāt like strangers and only likes to be held by certain people ie mum, dad and grandparents.
The child minder I have chose has a policy were handover is at the door and parents canāt come in. But I know sheās will scream if I pass her over and leave. She loves kids and she will be fine when she sees them but I just want to come in with her, place her infront of the kids so sheās distracted and then leave.
Iām also struggling with her not getting constant supervision as they can have up to 6 kids in their care and you canāt possibly have eyes on all 6 at all times.
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