Heartbreak how to move on

My daughters dad lives abroad so I had my daughter in March 2025 all alone. He cut us off a week before I gave birth. I hadn’t heard from him since until recently he’s told a family member he’s not her dad and he wants a dna test. It was a huge blow to my system because we both wanted the baby when I found out I was pregnant. He’s the first man I ever loved and the first man to get me pregnant. I’m so heartbroken we were together until he just cut us off and has been ignoring us ever since. I’m so heartbroken I get this tight pain in my chest I feel like I can’t breathe and the tears don’t stop flowing. I’ve cried everyday since giving birth.

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That sounds like PPD and that’s your focus that’s keeping you down. I’d definitely talk to a therapist

I’m so sorry to hear that this had happened to you, no one deserves to go through that. My prayers go out to you and your baby girl, something similar to that happened to me 2023, I for sure thought I would never survive it, but I did. You will make it through this and u will find happiness and true love and a partner that is worthy of u and ur daughter, just to breath and take it one day at a time

My daughter's dad lives abroad too so I know what you mean by saying you had her all alone. In my case he keeps coming every now and then to see her but every time it's so hard. He knows nothing about being with our toddler, scolds her and has zero patience which destabilises our routine and my serenity. He also says (every time) how hard it is on him to have to pay me for our child support and diminishes all the hard work I'm doing to bring her up the way I believe is better.
Sometimes I wish he was just out of the picture, it feels like it would be easier.
Girl, put the responsibility about what he says on him. That says a lot about what kind of a person he is, you definitely deserve better.
Please take care 😘

This happened to my mum with me… and my dad moved to Australia a month before I was due. As I got older I asked her if she found it hard? She always replied “yes but I got you out of it” at the end of the day a man that can leave his family, not even to another part of the country but to a whole ass different country. Is a man you cannot trust again, and you’ll constantly be thinking what ifs. After my dad made his decision to move my mum never spoke to him again. She just moved on with life, 3 years later she met another man who I now call my dad. And have 2 amazing sisters. For me on the other end of it all. Of course I had questions but I always admired my mums strength to move on. One of her favourite things to say is “we don’t know how brave we are until being brave is the only choice we got” fast forward 23 years to now. I have my own baby. And sometimes I think my dad leaving was a good thing. You deserve the world and more for your baby. I hope you find peace x

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