Park etiquette? Making friends?

I feel a little embarrassed to even be asking this but I am terrible at being social and making friends.

Today my son (he’s 22 months) was trying to make friends at the park, it was super cute, but all the kids were a bit older 5-10 I’m guessing. He kept going up and saying hi, followed by his minion language, and the kids just seemed annoyed and gave me the “get your baby” look. I totally get it, they are kids, not upset at them at all. I’m more upset at myself because I didn’t know how to help him, was I supposed to pull him away from the kids or let them figure it out?
How do I help him make friends when I see people with kids his age? I brought a beech ball and offered it for them both to play there was 1 other toddler the parent seemed to pull their kid away, I’m like 😳 did I scare the people… the parent was right there. I hate my social anxiety. Anyway.
Main questions. Am I supposed to pull him away from kids that don’t seem to want to play with him? ( they kept getting up and he kept following them till I pulled him away) 💔
And. Tips on making toddler friends at the park.

Thank you

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My kid does this all the time. She introduces herself to kids, asks their name and asks if they want to play. Doesn’t matter the age of the kid, she does it to them all, which results in a lot of rejection. At first she would come back to me upset, but I just tell her maybe they don’t want to play, maybe they’re playing with someone else or maybe they’re shy. She doesn’t seem to care about the rejection anymore and just asks me to play instead when no one else wants to. So I wouldn’t discourage your child, he’ll find his feet.

With parents pulling their kid away from you, I’ve had that before. I don’t get it, but I assume they’re awkward, which I can relate to. Most of the time I just get in there and set up a game with my daughter and other kids and get them playing. Some parents say thank you, other parents just step away and go do their own thing. I had a dad leave his 2 year old in a park with me while he went off to watch football. Odd, but at least my daughter got a play mate.

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