Am I being wrong ?

Long story short, when I got pregnant I had a talk with my fiancé that he would stop getting drunk and smoking. He promised that he would never do that ever again . Baby is 10 months now and he broke this promise already 100 times . And the worst part is that he is just lying looking directly into my eyes saying I did not smoke ( also i came home today after walking with our baby and he finished the beer alone at home wtf middle of the day ) . And he is always telling me I’m overreacting and it’s not that serious. But somehow when we were for 2 months with his parents he did not want to smoke or drink . Like why should I get this version of him?
Please do not leave comments like leave him etc it’s impossible now !

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And I’m breastfeeding so obviously I’m not drinking or smoking somehow for almost 2 years now and he cannot hold himself 😮‍💨
Like maybe he is lying about other things while looking directly into my face

I’ve accidentally clicked yes scrolling past, sorry!

I am going to give you some tough love girl. I'm sure you've heard this but we CANNOT control anyone else's actions especially if there are elements of addiction involved. That man will only stop smoking and drinking if and when he really wants to and is ready to make a change not just because you've asked him to. Even if you didn't ask and he promised but he's going back to it means he's not ready to make a change right now. Now you know what you are dealing with and if you don't want to leave him absolutely fine but he has and is showing you this is who he is at this stage in his life. So as the saying goes when someone shows you who they are...believe them! Not saying he might not or can't ever change but you have to accept he might not and can you live with him as he is now or potentially the rest of your life. A saying that changed my life is... Life is hard so choose your hard that you are willing to accept and deal with.

Look up a woman on YouTube called 'put the shovel down'. She's an addiction counselor who works with the families and puts a lot of free content online. It's helping me see what I'm doing wrong - but it's still a very painful waiting game...

U thought a baby can change a man??

You cant change or control him so you either accept that he will lie to you disrespect you and not care. Or leave its no such thing as its to late.

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