Parents in law dirty habits

I feel really bad even thinking about it, but I’m really struggling with the idea of my parents in law taking care of our baby.

I adore my husband, and his parents are always super nice to me. However, I have always struggled with their cleaning and hygiene habits. For example, their toilet is often very dirty, they lick the spoons they use while cooking, their fridge contains items that have been there for 20 years, their clothes are often dirty, and they spit while speaking and eating.

I’m really worried about raising this concern with my husband because I’m afraid it could become a serious issue within our family. Unfortunately, my own parents live in America( I trust them 100% to take care of our baby).

Does anyone have any advice or suggestions?

in our community

Rejection?

I feel like I’ve been rejected by my LO. When he’s with me or my husband he always cries. Since he’s had his 8 week jabs(is now 12 weeks, but 5weeks corrected), he’s been really fussy. He’s clingy and cries most of the time, it’s rare to get a smile out of him or even play with him for more than 3 minutes before he starts screaming again. We thought he was colicky for a while, but yesterday we went to his grandparents house, and he was a completely different baby. He was happy, he played. He smiled. There was only one point in the day where he cried and that was when he was with me, as soon as I handed him to someone else he was fine. Now, I feel like he hates me, I feel like he’s rejected me and I’m an absolute failure because I can’t make him feel safe with me. I’m his mom, I should be the safest place in the world for him?! I don’t know how to shake this feeling now.. how to fix it.
Has anyone else ever felt this? 😞😢

My 12m won’t settle at nursery and I don’t know what to do.

I have been trying to start my daughter at nursery for 2 months now and she just screams and screams until they inevitably call me back to get her. We have been doing a settlement for 2 months where I walk out the room for 1 hour and come back and get her. She screams so intently it actually sounds like she is in pain. They staff will usually call me back in before the hour is up because she is just inconsolable. I am at a loss at what to do now. I assumed this would go away in time but it’s not got better, if anything it’s gotten worse! Her dad has also tried to drop her to see if it helped but she was the same with him. When I am in the room she plays happily and is actually very confident and social. Has anyone else had this problem and did it eventually resolve itself? I’m at the point where I don’t know if I can keep putting her in.

“Homeschooling”

My son just turned 2 and compared to at least his cousins his vocabulary is amazing! You can talk to him and he’ll try to talk back even in his own words. Anyways I want to work with him more and I know there’s people that say he don’t need it but might as well do a few min here and there if I’m a SAHM. Is there any curriculums you follow or have found like worksheets you do. What do I need to buy, follow you’re more than welcome to leave links to anything I just need help where to start and activities and how to correlate them together with the learning of a specific thing.

Cold sore?

I noticed these red spots around my toddlers mouth, she is teething and having a lot of saliva and because she’s teething is wanting her dummy a lot more.

Does this look like spots from moisture or cold sores??

Anyone else feel like a single mother?

My baby is almost 14 weeks, my husband works full time and I love him so much but I just feel so alone.

He works 9-5, 5 days a week and is tired when he comes home so he has a nap, this means I look after baby 24 hours a day, he might do a bottle or 2, and a nappy change or 2 but I do everything 99% of the time. I have tried to get him to help more but this is what I signed up for being a SAHM😩

I love our girl so much and I love him so much too but I feel like I’m doing it all on my own and can’t keep having the same conversation over and over asking for him to do more to be told he’s so tired! I’m tired too😩 I feel like I’m a single mum and at this point I feel like I wouldn’t even notice a difference doing it completely alone! But I can’t leave because I love him so much!

I do all of the night feeds and then the day so I have her from 12pm all the way through until 6pm and even after that I still lay with her, entertain her, feed and change her.

I just don’t know what else to do aside from rant here!

9 year relationship over. Was due to get married 4 months tomorrow.

2 night ago my fiance cheated on me with a girl from work who I’ve always been worried about (trust your gut). I feel destroyed, broken and alone.

I have a 2 year old beautiful bestie. She’s my whole world.

We own a house, two dogs, cars and had our wedding and honeymoon all booked. I have no family around here but I do have friends.

Honestly I’m looking for someone to tell me it’ll get better. I cry so much but keep strong for my daughter. She doesn’t deserve any of this and I’m so frightened of her being in a split family (I never experienced this) and honestly having to share my time with her because of his bullshit betrayal. I’m not sure what the plan is, we will all live here together for a while and will try to navigate that the best we can - I actually don’t know how to afford renting alone as we’ve always shared everything and I want what’s best for my daughter. That being said, knowing he’s going out to meet her will be so fucking hard.

Please help me :(