"have you even tried to get them to speak?" Maybe you can tell me what I'm missing.

They were born during lock down so we weren't at baby groups but I've been told those are not required for speech development. Being in a house with your parents is typically enough. I was also told that screens don't stop language development but can delay for some. Children born to deaf parents and are not deaf themselves develop spoke language often without delay. You can speak multiple languages in a house and it might delay some kids but not most. They tested their hearing with a device in the ear that sees it the ear reacts to sound. It was done at birth as is normal and again at 2 years old and I've asked for it to be done again but they said it's unnecessary.


Their doctor said language may never develop or could start showing up around ages 7-9 or closer to puberty. They are 6.

this might be a silly question but do you still speak to them everyday as if they are able to speak back? rather than just accepting that they can’t speak and adapting instead of encouraging? x

I’m not even a quarter as knowledgeable as I’m sure you are about this from just the research and experience you’ve had but I’d honestly imagine that it’s nothing of your doing that caused or didn’t cause your kiddos to not speak. And I imagine as twins there’s also an even bigger pointing to a genetic deviation because as you pointed out, kids who don’t get the same environmental stimulus of reading, low screens etc will be verbal on time if not slightly late. Idk if you need to hear it but you seem like an amazing mother, and you’re doing all you should be

What I hate about how people treat moms when their kids are behind or delayed or diagnosed with something. It’s immediately the mom’s fault. It’s something the mom did or didn’t do. It’s always the mom’s fault. My kid just got diagnosed with autism. Nobody in our family knows and I don’t want them to know because they’re going to blame me.

It’s because you didn’t talk to him enough.
It’s because you yelled at him.
It’s because he watched ms Rachel all day.
It’s because he didn’t watch Barney.
It’s because you vaccinated him.

Or maybe this is how God made him and I am going to do everything in my power to help him succeed in life. ignore them. Wallah they don’t know what it’s like to raise a child that needs extra help in a world ready to point fingers on blaming someone for how the child is.

Mine started speaking at 3 as soon as they started childcare.
I did therapy speech at age 2 nothing happened.
Being sounded by other children did help.
But mine children are exposed to 3 different languages.

My kid has a speech delay and we decided to use screens. Ms rachel and sesame street have helped sooooooo much!
Now shes 5 and were beginning to have like actual conversations. Shes been in prek since 3 cause of the early intervention program and that has also helped a TON. Theyve got speech and occupational therapists that come to class. They utilize sign language in class for certain things so she still uses it at home when its applicable. It also took until this past may for her to be totally toilet trained but when it happened it literally felt like it was overnight.

Ahh you missed talking and singing to them from 18 weeks when they were in the womb. Thats it. Found the answer. How could you 🤣