I brought up possibly wanting one after I’m done breastfeeding. I’ve breast fed all 3 kids and when this baby is done I would want to get it. My boobs changed a lot from breast feeding I think they are uneven & saggy now. I wouldn’t get huge ones just natural but my husband says he doesn’t like that and it’s “fake”. I told him it would just to make me feel good in my own body but he’s really against it. What should I do?
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Get the boob job in my opinion

Your body your choice.

Get the boobs up he’ll end up liking it

Can you just remove the extra skin so what you have is just naturally perkier? That’s what I’d want to do. You still get the boob job and confidence without the “fake” part.

I would find a doctor you like and take your husband to the consultation. Seeing pictures and talking to the doctor might make him change his mind. They have more natural looking options and he might just have an idea that they look fake.

Weigh the Pros up with the cons.. as there are both to consider. Ultimately it is your decision.. no one can decide for you. Consider if this man is who you want to spend the rest of your life with and he prefers you natural then would you want to fit his ideal or would you prefer to do what you think will improve your appearance, what’s more important to you.. your preference or his. It is a big decision and a lot of money so I wouldn’t rush into it. Maybe just start saving up for it now and decide later down the line x

We’re in the same boat but I’m doing it anyway ❤️

maybe mention getting a boob lift especially if it’s the look you want to change not the size? i have big boobs and breastfeeding i don’t think ill ever get a boob job it would look unnatural on me lol go with what you want in the end it’s your self confidence and security.

What about just a lift so they’re perky again, but natural?

I personally dont agree. Im pregnant with my 4th now and will never get one. Last i checked i was a 38DD. Definitely bigger than that now. I honestly hate how big they are, but ill never do anything with them. I believe God made you the way you are. You've breastfed and thats a great accomplishment. Even your husband doesnt think you need them done. I think maybe you should give yourself some time. Really think about it. My mom had it done and now years later is regretting it.

You can have a boob job where they take the fat from another part of your body and inject it into your boobs maybe that would feel more natural to him but id say do what makes you feel good about yourself.

I think you should do whatever you want to do. I understand the whole comment about God made you the way you are, but God also gave Doctors the knowledge to be able to help people, and God gave us the option to choose. My husband also didn’t want me to have any surgeries, and I ended up doing what I wanted because it was my money and I really didn’t care on his opinion. He loves me as much as he did before, and now he can’t keep his hands off me lol.

i don’t think you should do it because it’s really risky and a major surgery that can have complications years after. my boobs also changed but i’ll never consider it because i couldn’t leave my family and life behind if there was a complication in surgery all because i wanted to be more sexy/ beautiful. it’s too sad to me some people die for beauty in the surgery complications so while i agree i also need it looks wise, it’s not worth dying over.

Girl tell him you breastfed all the kids and this is something YOU want. You deserve it! You’re beautiful the way you are but I also understand wanting the procedure done. I’m also getting one done once i have and finish breast feeding the other baby. Before having babies I had nerve damage and now with breast feeding, I have permanent indentions in my shoulder. Back pain is on 10 and I would just like a normal chest for once. So I get it. Hope everything goes well and they come out looking great girl! Much love 🫰🏽💗
I love my daughter more than anything. I would do absolutely anything for her, and I know this is just a hard day… but fuck, I hate this.
I just cannot get a minute to myself.
The ONLY time she stops crying is when she’s breastfeeding. Half the time she’s not even feeding - she’s just using me as a pacifier. Ironically, she won’t actually take a pacifier. Formula gives her the shits and makes her belly grumble, so I can’t even have someone else take over a feed and give me a break.
My partner is at work. “Why don’t you ask your mum to come over and help?”
Help how? She won’t stop crying for her. I don’t need someone to do my washing or make me a cup of tea. I just want to be able to put a dummy in her mouth or put her down in her bed and have ten fcking minutes where nobody needs me.
I miss having adult conversations. I miss seeing my friends. I miss doing my skincare. I miss being able to brush my teeth without thinking, “I need to get to sleep RIGHT NOW before she wakes up again.”
I miss having a moment where my body and my time feel like they belong to me.
I love her so, so much. I know this stage won’t last forever. I know there will be easier days.
But today is fucking hard.
I’ve never felt so broken
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I’m curious about real life experiences rather than just the official recommendations! How old was your baby when you first let them watch something, and how much did you allow?
Any regrets about starting too early or wishing you’d started sooner? Has anyone noticed anything surprising, either positive or negative, that went against what you’d been told about screen time?
No judgement at all, just genuinely curious about everyone’s experiences! ❤️
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Hey! I am nearly 28 weeks pregnant with my first and haven't decided if we'll set up babies room before she arrives or when she's here?
I would love advice from people who have been there.
My thoughts are why set up a room and lose a guest room if she wont use that room for at least 6 months?
But my other thoughts are...
1. Will it be harder to paint and build furniture with a baby?
2. Will the house feel more organised/newborn life be easier if all her bits have a place in her room rather than scattered?
What did you do? and would you do it differently now you've lived it?
TIA x

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Curious as to when we start leaving our babies to wake up by themselves during the night??.
My little girl is six weeks and (touch wood🪵) has always been a great sleeper. I am still waking up during the night to wake her up for a feed as she would sleep all night if I let her.
She’s currently on 150ml every 3 hrs and 180ml before bedtime. She has had a good weight gain and perfectly healthy?? Should I just leave her till she wakes up herself?? What’s everybody else’s experiences?? 🙈Xxx
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How do we feel about communal changing rooms at swimming baths? We took my son to a lovely little local pool, the staff were amazing with him and he loved every second but the changing rooms really put me off. Men and women are separated but there’s no privacy and it’s a tiny room? I think this is a deal breaker but my husband says i’m being a bit dramatic- he’s not the one taking him though!
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I brought up possibly wanting one after I’m done breastfeeding. I’ve breast fed all 3 kids and when this baby is done I would want to get it. My boobs changed a lot from breast feeding I think they are uneven & saggy now. I wouldn’t get huge ones just natural but my husband says he doesn’t like that and it’s “fake”. I told him it would just to make me feel good in my own body but he’s really against it. What should I do?
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