I can’t do this!

I’m so confused. I keep seeing people who have no issues sleeping with their babies or near their babies. I can’t! It’s been like 3, 4 weeks? IDk. Today it feels like I just hit a wall. I’ve tried the swaddling, and she still stirs and makes noises that wakes me up. I’ve tried the bed sharing. She still moves and fusses and squirms. I’m so tired. I dread nighttime because I know there’s no way I’m going to actually sleep. During the day I can hand baby to hubby and get some chunks of sleep, but at night, every little sound just wakes me up. I don’t know what to do.

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After speaking with our pediatrician, we moved baby into her own room. I wasn't sleeping. I woke up to every little noise. She slept in her crib safely.

Yeah, babies are actually quite loud sleepers.
I know a lot of people swear by a noise machine so that they can sleep through a little easier.
When you pass her to your husband, make sure you're getting at least 3 hours in one chunk, so that you can get at least one REM session in. That's deep sleep, and you need that to keep going.

Our plan is for husband to take 8pm-2am and for me to take 2am-8am. Would something like this be possible for you two?

I bought some loop earplugs and it helped me massively! Every wriggle, cough, inhale that sounded funny, turn over etc I would wake - it was getting to up to 10 times a night, and the baby was actually only really wake maybe 3/4 times. Once I had those the little noises didn’t wake me and I only woke up when he properly woke up, I could still hear everything I needed to! Now he’s in his own room the monitor doesn’t pick up the tiny noises to I don’t need to wear them anymore and I only wake up with him maybe twice a night 🙏

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