Tinge around mouth?
Picture doesn’t do it justice but my son quite often has a blue/greyish tinge around his mouth (his lips never go blue)
I brought this up at the 6-8 week check (at 11 weeks) and the GP brushed me off and said well he’s gaining weight so it can’t be a heart issue. Like? Well what is it then? Absolutely useless.
Anyway, does anyone else’s baby get this? Heart problems run in my partners family so I’m naturally panicking. 😭
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I hate the way GPs and health visitors disregard things just because they are feeding well and gaining weight
My son has the same, I spoke to the doctor about it and they said it can be a sign of trapped wind or reflux. They didn’t seem worried but I can understand how frustrating it can be to feel brushed off. X
My first son was over the 98th centile and was born with two holes in his heart. Not at all to frighten you but they absolutely can have a heart defect and gain weight well. Blueing around the lips was one of the signs we were told to watch for. Personally I’d push for an echo which I’m surprised you weren’t offered anyway x
They told me it’s a sign of wind apparently
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Tinge around mouth?
Picture doesn’t do it justice but my son quite often has a blue/greyish tinge around his mouth (his lips never go blue)
I brought this up at the 6-8 week check (at 11 weeks) and the GP brushed me off and said well he’s gaining weight so it can’t be a heart issue. Like? Well what is it then? Absolutely useless.
Anyway, does anyone else’s baby get this? Heart problems run in my partners family so I’m naturally panicking. 😭
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