Suffering from severe gender disappointment
I found out the gender of my baby last week at my 20w anatomy scan and it's a boy. I really wanted a girlššš Is it possible that the Dr might be wrong???š
I never saw anything on the screen nor did I get a printout. Free healthcare in my country is just nonsense....
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I know what your feeling. And yes they can be wrong sometimes but its uncommon. I really wanted a boy my first time and had a girl. I was very disappointed for a while. But it went away. Dont let anyone make you feel bad for feeling let down.
Itās more likely for the doctor to say girl and it actually be a boy, but even that is usual. We had bloodwork done for both my kids and did it so early that we couldnāt develop expectations. I knew their genders at 6 weeks each.
Just try to cleanse yourself of those expectations because youāve been given a healthy little boy. Boys are awesome.
Hugs! Itās hard to feel gender disappointment. I would say it is possible, but very unlikely theyāre wrong. Feel the feels and try to find ways to embrace having a boy. I have three boys and I can say for certain that they love their momma like no one else..even if you donāt feel excited before birth, I can almost guarantee it wonāt matter the moment you lay eyes on your precious babe.
Thank you so much ladiesā¤ļøā¤ļø I feel like I just needed to talk about it so that I can accept it, instead of instantly pretending to be happy. I will eventually be fine. Im just really happy that he's healthy. Now we wait for his arrivalš
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