Need some words of wisdom please! Struggling mama here. Desperate for some help 😢

I am absolutely shattered, my 3 year old toddler (who doesn’t sleep the best) literally is barely sleeping now at all! The past 3/4 nights have been absolutely tragic. Admittedly he has a cough, so he might be a bit unwell and I understand the cough keeps him awake or wakes him when he’s sleeping however his usual first stretch of sleep is pretty much gone, which we were having a solid 4/5 hours then restless sleep. Usually he wakes around 6am but he’s been getting up around 5am, we are currently sat downstairs because we’ve given up on sleep. I really struggle to get back to sleep when woken so sleep hasn’t happened at all for me tonight think I’ve had 45 mins and the thought of a day literally running on fumes is making me want to cry my eyes out. Is there a sleep regression at 3 years old or I’m wondering if he’s having a growth spur? As he’s just had porridge at 5am as well as he said he’s hungry! I don’t know what to do but I’m a single mama, so any advice for sleep welcome! I am with someone who isn’t his dad, and we stay his most of the week where he has his own room there but he does not stay in his bed at the minute for longer than an hour! Also we are staying my mums tonight and we share a bed there due to lack of rooms.. I also have a 14 hour day tomorrow at work so I really really need some help! Very desperate with what to do going forward because I’m worried the lack of sleep will stick and he’ll just never sleep properly again 😢

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Oh lovely, you’re definitely not alone 😭❤️ My little one has been doing something very similar for the past week because of her teeth. She used to sleep from 9pm until 7am like a dream, and now she wakes up crying and literally NOTHING makes her happy 😩😂
She woke me at 3am last night, finally went back to sleep and I thought I’d get some sleep too… nope! I ended up cleaning up all the toys and basically the whole house while she slept 😂 It was 6:20am, I was already on my third coffee and my older one was getting up at 7 for school ☕️😂
So I completely understand the “I’m running on fumes and could cry” feeling. You’re doing amazing, especially as a single mum. ❤️ And honestly, I don’t think a few bad weeks means they’ll suddenly never sleep again. Hopefully once the cough/teething passes, things settle back down. Sending you lots of coffee and strength! 😂☕️❤️

Hey lovely your not alone, my little one has very enlarged tonsils so she used to wake quite a bit here are a few suggestions to try and see how you get on. I also noticed with my one is if we stayed somewhere she would always have a little anxiety so maybe keep little one close to you/same room as you. When my little one has a cold usually i prop the matress up slightly with a pillow underneath as it helps to open the airways, usually bedtime routine is warm bath pjs on, medicine ( cough meds pain meds if needed) sit in a dim lighted room read books and have cuddles for about an hour then we lay in bed and usually little one falls asleep within 30/45 mins i stay nxt to her an extra 15mins so i know shes fully alseep, go and do what i need todo and then i place her in her bed with a tshirt that i have worn that day ( as long as its not too dirty).

If she wakes during the night ill use a dim light and put her in the bed with me again and see what happens usually she falls asleep again, when you wake try keep it in your mind or say to yourself i need sleep, or something that will make you tired and want to fall back to sleep. As i know most of us when we wake we are like oh i gotta do abc today and thats it when the brains fully awake theres no going bk to bed.

What time is bedtime?
How new is the partner?
Consistency is really important for children and staying in different beds and set ups likely isn’t helping.

Being unwell atm almost certainly isn’t helping my eldest always sleeps terribly with a cough x

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