Is anyone else experiencing this? When my husband comes home from work he wants to have a cuddle with our 4 month old girl but she just cries or whines when with him. Is this normal?
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My partner gets this near the end of the week if he’s been busy during the days and evenings and not been around as much! We try to get him to give a bottle even if it’s expressed breast milk to help with their bond and try to prioritise him doing some more time with him! Like nappies, playing and cuddles. It might be trying to make cuddling fun like walking around the garden or bouncing and singing songs to her at the same time? X

I have a 4 month old little girl too and we are going through exactly the same thing. She is very a much a Velcro baby with me right now x

Really normal. Babies want mum for the first year and the toddler years are where dads come into their own imo! They become the ‘fun’ parent x
My partner when he does help is an amazing dad.
However… there’s always been an issue with him helping me with our daughter. He has no initiative if I don’t tell him what to do he doesn’t do it. Or if don’t explain in great detail what needs doing it will be done wrong. For example if I say can you please put the clothes in the wash, he will literally put them in the washing machine and do nothing else.
Which I’ve shown him how to do uncountable times. Shock horror he’s only ever lived at his mums before moving in with me 3 years ago where his mum delivered meals and washing to his door. So as you can imagine it’s been a long 3 years trying to help him learn to cook clean and fend for himself. Which is mum had a lot to say about.
Back to the point, I will be standing struggling with our daughter who is 8 months old going through sleep regression she’s been in her own room a week isn’t having it at all just wants to sleep on me, even nap times have become contact naps again. And I will say can you please help me. And he will stand there and ask me what I want him to do. I don’t even know myself if I did know what would help her sleep id do it myself I just mean can I have 10 minutes to re coop.
I’m getting about 3 hours sleep a night. She doesn’t nap long in the day so I can’t make up for it then. I also need to keep on top of the house as when I don’t he threatens to get his mum to come clean it or get cleaners…
I honestly have such bad postpartum rage but only with him, I just hate him at the moment. Which I’ve told him, is his own fault for not supporting me at all. And all is he says is I work I work I work. Yes he does. 8-4. He’s home at 4:30 he’s also self employed and spends half his day sending me fucking TikTok’s. I was meant to stay off work for a year to enjoy time with our daughter as I struggled to conceive I don’t know if I can again but I’m honestly considering just going back to work now and trying to get my daughter in nursery a few days a week sooner so then it removes any excuses from him. Even the weekends I get no relief as all he says is she wants you. After trying to settle her for a minute. Of course she wants me I’m the default parent. But in order to keep my patience I’m sure as most mums do after an hour of continuous screaming I need 5 minutes to just stare at a wall re coop and go again. But no that is too much to ask.
I know I’m not the only one who’s experienced this so what on earth do you do.
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