Cleaning ?

When do y’all find time to clean ? My daughter is 6m sleep okayish during the night but doesn’t nap during the day for more than 5mins I have to be in her line of sight the whole time or she’ll freak and she’ll only play by herself for about 30mins before she wants me to hold her or play with her etc I’m drowning in household chores I’d ask my husband but he works two jobs and I feel bad asking him after he’s so tired how can I go about this ? I tried cleaning at night but she wakes up hearing me move around the house we have creaky woods floors smfhhh 😩

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Do u allow her to watch TV? Or does she have a bouncer you could set her up in to do some cleaning for 30min?

Honestly I think this stage is just survival sometimes 😭🤍 I wouldn’t try to keep the whole house perfect. I’d pick 1–2 essential jobs a day and do them while she’s playing nearby/in her highchair so she can still see you, even if it takes forever 😂 And please don’t feel guilty asking your husband to take on something small and specific — even with two jobs, you’re working all day caring for a baby too. Maybe he could handle dishes, bins or one laundry load so it’s not all sitting on you. A 10–15 minute reset together can make such a difference. You’re not failing because the house is messy, you’ve just got a very clingy 6 month old right now 😭❤️

Would a swing work and if you put on ms Rachel on tv for her?

Mine loves the bouncer but it's definitely rough. I have two kids and my 7 month old is a lot more random when it comes to naps then my 22 month old. I do chores in waves during the day. I do the dishes after breakfast or lunch (depending on how big the pile of dishes is) when they're fed and playing. I have about 20 minutes to do the dishes before my 7 month old loses it. Then I nurse her and do the rest of the dishes afterwards while my son (the 22 month old) is following me around and asking for snacks. I then give him a snack and go load the laundry really quick before my 7 month old starts crying because she put herself on her stomach but hates it🤦🏾‍♀️. After I try encouraging her to crawl I then put her in the bouncer and straighten up the living room. My son will mess it up immediately after so I often skip this step until they both take a nap at 1-2 pm.

You can try baby wearing. At that stage it is just doing what you can when you can. If you can get her to nap near you that can help. Bouncer or high chair in the kitchen helped me with one kid. The other kid I just wore everywhere.

I baby wear and show him what I'm doing and narrate it and let him touch things when he's front-facing and I let him contact nap when he's back facing. Works for now.🤞

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