Am I Rude because I don’t feel like it 😂

Can anyone tell me why people feel so entitled to not RSVP and still think they can show up let alone with their friends or their children’s friends who you don’t know . My family is crying and throwing a sissy fit because I sent this message but quite frankly I don’t see anything rude about it since I’m spending MY money to throw an event

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No you are not rude! The amount of people that showed up and didn’t rsvp to my wedding is crazy. Good for you on standing your ground for YOUR event !

I am going through the same thing and my MIL keeps telling me not to worry about who is and isn’t coming. Like that’s easy for you to say because you’re not the one paying for anything!!

Not rude at all. I hate when people don't rsvp. Even worse is when people do, you spend the money and then they don't come, now money and tons of food wasted

Is it a party for kids ?

Yes I ain't doing no more parties for that reason, I had 30 people rsvp for my sons birthday last year and only like 10 ppl showed up.

Your not rude for feeling like it but defo could have worded it differently. I’m an opinionated and straightforward person so I get it when u get the urge to just speak your mind.

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I feel like I have gave Everyone enough notice to RSVP, if I haven’t had a response by the 17th I’m going to continue making arrangements as if your not coming,

Respectfully if you haven’t told me your coming then don’t just show up, you should know by now if your coming or not coming so it would be nice to let me know.

Also please only bring your own family members as bringing other friends or your kids friends adds more heads and I am sticking to a budget.

I feel like this version still puts your boundaries across without making you look like the unreasonable one.

After the third reminder in 3 months I’m done being nice honestly so maybe that’s why it came out exactly how it was supposed to sound but I generally don’t feel bad since we in the this group chat are all 20-45 years old and had I not RSVP’D to event they throw I’d get treated the same

Yeah I think it's rude. It's a rude way to get your point across. But I'm from another country so it may be a cultural difference

I get the sentiment in the message but the wording in the message is hugely rude.

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