Hiya,
My son is in for an autism assessment and I constantly get asked why he isn't in nursery. Does anyone have any advice and answers I can give which don't immediately kill off a conservation š I will have one with my Dr soon and I know it will be a question that comes up but want to keep on their good side...
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I was asked this in July at my sonās assessment. Wanted to headbutt the man because he keeeept saying he should go to school.
Basically my eldest (also autistic) cannot to school, having one in and one out looses al flexibility, I donāt feel like he would do well in mainstream/traditional school, even his forest school āteachersā say getting him to do academic work is painful and thatās only once per day, two days per week.
So he was in ānurseryā technically, the assessment was the week after he finished being nursery age, and he still goes to the same setting just as a home ed kid now.

I forever get this Q and I simply reply we don't need the childcare cover as I'm home so there's no need t send them and that usually does th trick!
My daughter has told me a few times now since starting 2nd grade that some of her classmates have cell phones and now she wants one š«©š«©š«© obviously sheās not going to get one lmao, but the fact that this is already a thing and convo Iām having now is mind blowing to me, I thought Iād have a few more years

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I swear my oldest son was so sweet and obviously had a few outbursts but nothing too crazy but within the last 6 months I feel like he did a complete 180 and his whole personality has changed. He sasses off to me, and just pushes every boundary and I swear the boy tests me to see how much he can provoke me. I honestly feel like Iām doing something wrong. I feel like Iām constantly on him about everything and I donāt let him get away with much if heās doing something wrong but it feels like nothing I do is working. I wanna raise a respectful, nice boy but heās making it feel almost impossible right now.

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Hi ladies
Iām just wondering if anyone could talk me through how the payments work for the tax free child care for nursery?
We are eligible for 30 free hours which we claim and the nursery have sorted for us.
I have only just realised today when updating my account that I am also eligible for tax free child care which I believe is where the government pays 20% of the nursery bill?
My nursery bill per month is Ā£137, I have selected and set up my nursery on the account, Iām just not really understanding how the money gets paid in and how the gov know how much to pay for their bit?
I have taken a screen shot of the screen that came up for when I was trying to have a nosy round and figure out how to pay, I havenāt actually got my next bill just yet, and last month I just paid the full Ā£137 myself straight from my bank account as I didnāt realise I was eligible for the tax free one. No biggy really about the first bill as he has only just started nursery so that was his first bill, I would just like to know how to pay it with the government bit in preparation for the next bill.
Thank you

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So Iām currently at the hospital because Iām in labor and about to deliver my baby within the next hour and a half probably and none oneās here.
Well my momās on the way to me now but itāll take a minute for her to come. As for my babyās dad, nowhere in sight. I told him I was in the hospital and he said he wanted to be there when his son is born but where is he? Who knows.
Am I upset? Definitely. Am I surprised? No not really. Iām only irritated because I know heās going to blame me for something like he always does and itās going to be horrible.
But thatās not important, whatās important is that I get to see my baby boy soon with or without him. Sad to say but I canāt control how he reacts so Iām just gonna focus on me and baby.

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My 2 year old Lo is still not settled after taking him to nursery from monday till today(thursday) for an hour . What can we do to help please. I am soo desperate as this didnt happen to my first . The manager was saying he wants to be picked up and i told her maybe it because he is still not settled with the new faces so he needs more time towards that .
Is there anything i need to do or...
I m just soo confused and i will be starting work next week thursday and dont know where to take him to .
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Baby could come in 3 weeks and my partner hasnāt help with anything at all! Iāve even given him the space and said we need to discuss these things, let me know when youāre free to chat and he still hasnāt bothered! He said he was going to talk to me yesterday but apparently I was too emotional so he didnāt bother! Which I think is a lie, he was just trying to find an excuse. He has been purposely coming home late from work all week and my little one would ask why daddy is late for dinner. I donāt know what to do anymore, Iām so mentally exhausted and feel so alone in this process! Iām hoping for a home birth, I donāt know how this would work if I feel so unsupported at the moment!
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