as a 23 yr old sahm mom i’m lost

i’ve been with my bf for 7 years now. recently the last year he cheated on me with a coworker. he travels for work and is gone for a month at time. today he told me we shouldn’t be together anymore because we’re not happy. bc he’ll never change. he said he doesn’t enjoy talking to me because of my brain capacity. claimed i’m boring. i have nothing to talk about. even though we agreed from the start id be a sahm mom. i haven’t even attempted to get a job bwcause no one wants to help me babysit and he doesn’t have time to. that he can only watch her twice a week and maybe after work but id have to work my schedule around his unpredictable schedule. it’s sad that ive wanted to get married since we had her and he doesn’t want to. so he got me pregnant. now doesnt like my body, thinks im a boring person and all i do is complain about our kid and him not helping me enough. he never compliments me when i get ready. and tells me why would i want to live that like. it’s so sad how i gave up everything for him and this is how he pays me

in our community

Why would you wean your baby at 4 months?

In a non judgmental way I just genuinely would like to hear of people who wean their babies at 4 months, regardless of how well they sit or swallow. I hear the argument that they don’t need to necessarily sit or swallow too well yet but it seems like it is just not fun for the baby to be taken away from milk to be spoon fed unsweetened porridge or something like that. I am just curious to hear from other parents just to be able to understand why so many people around me are being so pushy about me weaning my EBF baby at 4 months.

I don’t even know

So my husband and I are putting away groceries..I’ve already had a long tiring day and was already irritated, my 4year old was not listening and constantly getting into things..I asked and told multiple times nicely to please stop grabbed her off counters and stuff..she kept on so I finally ended up yelling at her, my husband yells at me “ you don’t need to yell at her she going to end up depressed that’s why she is the way she is”… I said she is not listening I’ve asked multiple times nicely. And also when I tell you I feel depressed you say and I quote, “ depression isn’t a real thing it’s all in your head get used to it”. So I said well if I could actually get a break from them I wouldn’t be so short tempered… when he is home he does nothing, I want to shower kids go with I want to go to the bathroom kids go with, if I want to go out with friends to get a break kids have to go with or I can’t go..I’ve burned every dinner to a charcoal crisp because he would not help me with anything. Yes I know I should not yell at my kids but things happen and I’m human too and I always feel terrible after and go tell them sorry and explain why I yelled..

Should I look through my husbands phone?

Guys… idk I have a weird feeling.
I’ve never really had to worry about my husband before but the other night at like 2/3am we both woke up because LO started crying and he was like to me ‘I know you’re looking through my phone, it keeps moving from its place’ ?? Baring in mind, I did NOT look through his phone, I never do. And yesterday we were out and he was driving, I was in the back and I had his phone because I was playing music from his phone on YouTube, and from the front mirror he’s just looking at me? I had a feeling he felt uneasy me having his phone?

Do you think I’m overthinking it? Do you think what I’ve mentioned is enough grounds to go through his phone?

Do you think is rude for a paternal grandparent to constantly say things they will do with your child without asking you first ?

The father isn’t involved and I barely know her

Was detention harsh in this situation

This is my daughter’s first week in Year 7. She was given detention for not bringing a booklet to her lesson, which was in her locker. This is the first week, and she’s still getting used to moving from different class to class. Isn’t this harsh for the first week?

The end of our marriage?

Today I messaged my husband my feelings emotional abandonment by him for many years. He never makes any effort to check in on me when events are happening in life and on top of that he makes zero effort to make me feel appreciated for key dates like my birthday anniversary Valentine’s Day etc. I’ve told him I’m just done settling for the minimum from him and I’ve been around long enough to give him a leg up on all the things he wants to do in life. I poured in a lot because face to face I just cry and he hugs me and I just can’t put my real words across in true form. Anyway after I said basically my desire to be married to him is gone and that I realise he’s incapable of loving me truly his response was that everything I said was correct as in he accepts his faults. He’s made no follow ups or what this means for us. I don’t want to argue or put him under interrogation. What do I do? We have done couples therapy. It didn’t work take effect.