Partner getting angry/annoyed with me

My son hasn’t been napping which in turn has caused him to be a bit more on the cranky side around 3/4:00pm (he’s 2). He also hurt himself the other day so that’s been adding to it. Today has been one of those days where it’s tantrums, crying, and just not happy with the world.

He was crying for a bit and I decided to pick him up, take him to his room, and just sit with him for 10 min to calm down. When I came back out my husband was all annoyed and angry with me that I ‘gave into him’. I didn’t say a word to my son, just sat in silence and let him work through it.

Now I’m sitting here wondering if I did the wrong thing in that moment.. as a ftm I still have my moments where I’m lost and don’t know how to handle things but I do it the best I can. He’s a great husband and dad, but moments like this make me feel like I’m doing it wrong especially when he’s acting like that. We were raised two completely different ways and I know that plays a part into butting heads sometimes.

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Hes 2, he needs you to coregulate still

I’m sorry I’m so confused, gave into him with what? He was upset so you helped him calm down, what did he expect you to do?

What was he expecting you to do ? I mean you said he is a great dad... A great dad helps his toddler to regulate himself. I'm confused

They cannot …self ..regulate ..at.. that.. age properly. Hit ur partner with some facts. 1. When they miss a nap or refuse a nap it spikes cortisol levels aka stress hormone in turn making them “cranky” 2. They co-regulate because they physically cannot calm down by themselves and that’s the so called “tantrum”… you taking him away to a quiet space was 100% the correct thing to do 3. You literally changed his environment to lower his sensory overload.. giving him a treat to calm down or screen time or whatever else would be “giving in” 4. By remaining calm and picking him up that made him probably feel very secure and safe. You absolutely did the right thing mama ❤️

I always pick my son up if he’s crying no matter what. He’s 4 now. First you help them to calm. Lessons can be taught later. You’re definitely doing the right thing

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