Is my husband a narcissist?
My husband can come across as really loving and sweet, but behind closed doors I often feel like I’m walking on eggshells.
He does not take any form of criticism well. He immediately becomes defensive and enraged and it always ends in a big fight.
He also does not take people joking with him well. If he is the subject of a joke/banter he will have a huge tantrum or go silent and want to leave. He ruined last Christmas after someone teased him a little bit. He spent all of Christmas Day alone, and went and had a nap up in the bedroom by himself, refused to eat Christmas dinner with everyone, and asked me if we could leave that night instead of staying over. He also ruined Easter because he was ‘so tired’, he didn’t want to go, and when we went he sabotaged it, didn’t join anyone for dinner and sat in a room with just our baby. He’s also sabotaged other events including most recently my brother’s wedding. I’m fed up with family events being ruined.
He never apologises for anything. And if I bring up something I’m not happy with with he will always spin it round so that he is the victim and I am in the wrong, so I always end up apologising even though I was mad at him in the first place. This happens every few days at the moment. I thinks he’s apologised first twice in our 4 year relationship.
He loves people praising him, and every day after work he brags about his achievements and often belittles his colleagues and their mistakes. He absolutely rages if anyone at work makes him feel small, or steps out of line. He hates his ego being diminished.
He checks out other women in front of me, then denies it. Makes me feel like I am wrong and he’s doing nothing wrong at all.
He doesn’t seem to have much empathy and has a very small amount a patience for our nearly 1 year old. Our son loves me unconditionally and isn’t that keen on my husband. Our son only settles with me and my husband hates this. I think it’s because my son senses it.
He gives me the silent treatment for hours or days at a time after an argument, especially if I was annoyed at him at first, and he’s spun it round on me. He’s so moody and irritable. I’m so tired of it.
Is he a narcissist?
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Clearly, it's as if they were all photocopies made from the exact same handbook. My ex was just like that. Run away as soon as you can,start preparing your exit without him realizing it, and gather evidence of everything you need, because they lie, defame you, and play the victim in court just to hurt you where it hurts most. Im here for u if you need any emotional support about that
Also he’s terrible with money. We both earn the same amount and literally have the same job but he never seems to be able to save.
I paid off the mortgage on our house but we are down on the agreement 50:50.
I bought the car, but his name is on it as he had ‘more years no claims’ for insurance.
Do you have access to his accounts, or can you see what he's spending the money on? This is another pattern of theirs,getting you into debt, taking ownership of your money and belongings, and hiding their financial information. Any drugs or alcohol adiction?
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If one bit of admiration was left, it is definitely out of the window now. I can’t even think about being intimate with him again without getting nauseous.
I’m 3 months PP, and this manchild has been making my life so much harder. He got 12 weeks paternity leave to catch-up on sleep, while I struggled with the C-section recovery and newborn, and he half ass-d with the toddler. Mind you, with the toddler in daycare FT, this man would sleep whenever newborn and I would sleep, and proceed to sleep in another room through the night so we wouldn’t keep waking him up.
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