A child someone else birthed 37 years ago and now I am being forced to raise

What did he do that was half ass? Does he understand specifically what you need?

My husband didn’t get paternity time, so he sleeps in another room because we were keeping him awake, but he also volunteers to take the 3a-6a shift a few times per week so I can sleep. We’re at 5 weeks PP now. And he gets breakfast going on the weekends and does most of the newborn care (besides feeding) so I can play with our 5 year old or get housework done since he has some back pain and is less able to play soccer or sit on the floor for legos, and housework is my role at home. So there’s definitely a way for your husband to help, but maybe something else is in the way. It’s worth exploring.

You are more than justified in how you feel, especially recovering from a c section which is way harder, and having a toddler to also care for, with a new born.

I honestly think something is flawed in men. They need you to explain even basic life expectations to them. He may think that just because he is handling the financial side of things, that’s all that’s expected of him as a man, not realising there are expectations as a husband and father, too.

I would have a conversation with him about it first, a very tough conversation, and see what he says. If he apologises profusely, feels ashamed over the lack of support and makes a change, then the relationship is salvageable.

If he STILL doesn’t get it and is defensive or complacent and doesn’t make a change, I would personally think of an exit plan. As you said, you have 2 kids to raise, not 3. Your husband should make life easier for you, not harder x

Finance , the reason we women tolerate shit… Build yourself

You're not being forced since you can leave at any time.