AM I IN THE WRONG FOR BEING UPSET

TW : infant death

i had twins almost two weeks ago and my baby boy passed .. and what my MIL said to me this morning triggered me . am i in the wrong ?

i took these photos of my daughter this morning and sent them to my MIL . she said " she looks dead . i dont like these .. sorry "

and thinking i didnt see the texts , she removed them.

it really struck me that she would say something like this because my son did pass. and im not sure who would even say something like this anyways. i didnt respond anything besides " she was sleeping the whole time " . i feel off put now and extra hurt not only because i took these but because im still grieving .

am i in the wrong for being upset ?

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No you aren't wrong, your MILs comment is really inappropriate and I can absolutely see how it would be triggering. Your daughter looks adorable, very vibrant and like a typical healthy newborn. My guess would be that your MIL is grieving in her own way currently, and might not be ready to welcome your daughter in at this moment because she's processing the loss of her grandson, your boy. I would give her grace and empathy, and simultaneously keep an eye out for more weird behavior or off comments. I think she realized what she said was wrong and thats why she deleted them.

I went through similar things when my son passed, and while that is your baby and no one is going to feel that loss like you do, that the loss of a child shakes the whole family and people act all kinds of weird while grieving and sometimes say some stupid stuff

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