Visits
Curious what others are doing about friends/family visiting your newborns, most of our close friends/family have asked when they can visit but i have some family i know won’t ask to visit, but will make a big deal about not meeting the baby am i meant to invite them round??
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Honestly I'm trying to avoid as many visits as possible. The birth and initial postpartum period was quite traumatic for me so I needed to protect my peace.
Now things have settled, I dont mind visitors provided they dont turn up unannounced!
I'm not inviting people round but if they ask, I will suggest a timing that works best for me and baby.
I’m happy to have visits i just don’t know if i should be expecting people to let me know that they want to visit or initiate visits with them myself
The way i see it is, if they wanted to see me/baby then they can call or text to ask how we are and if we are up to visitors. Then we can decide if we see them or they come to us but if they cant be bothered then i will not be inviting people round. They can sulk about it if they want but i dont beg anyone to be in my childrens life. They can miss out
I’ve not invited anyone round, I’m happy for people to visit my baby and come see her but I won’t make the first move as whoever doesn’t bother to reach out to me isn’t worth reaching out to, and honestly if you can’t be bothered to ask about me and my baby then you don’t deserve to come see her
I can see it from both sides. I had a friend get upset that I didn’t ask to come over when she had her baby, but I was just giving her space to enjoy her bubble (still messaging and checking in), but equally I feel it’s quite annoying when you see just trying to relax and enjoy your baby and people keep pestering you for when they can come by.
I’ve just messaged a few friends and family to say we are opening up for any visits and to let us know when they are free.
One thing I would recommend- only have one visit a day and keep a couple of days a week free from anyone coming so you can genuinely just chill out. It’s quite exhausting hosting people and not everyone understands not to stay for hours! X
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