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England

Double barrel surname

My boyfriend and I have been together 4.5 years and are expecting our first baby in January. We’re not married (not even engaged) and I wouldn’t say either of us are very traditional. My boyfriend has taken an issue with the fact I want our baby and future children to have both our surnames, and that I will likely have a double barrel surname when/if we do eventually get married. I’m quite independent and I like my family name, so I don’t think it’s a surprise to him but he seems offended by my decision and is constantly pushing me to take his name and to give our children his name. He says it’s ’the norm’ - I think it’s archaic. He’s implied we aren’t a proper family if we don’t all have the same name, so I suggested he also double barrel if we get married (of course he didn’t want to do that). His family also clearly don’t like it and keep calling our baby by his surname only. I’m not going to change my mind about the double barrel surname, but I’m just getting really bored of having the same conversation. Am I really being weird/unreasonable for standing my ground on this?