Alone with kids

So my husband is in the military and he has to go away for training for 5 months, but once he leaves our current house he will never be back. He will be going to basic training then moving to California. My twins and I will be alone in Iowa. I have no family and his family is basically useless they all live 2+ hours away and never check in. I am in a few mom groups but they are all boring and basically everyone is old enough to be my mom or has insane amounts of money and brags about their 3 nanny's and summer house so they are not helping me at all. I lost all my friends when I had kids so I am all my kids have. I also have to move our entire house to California and get us and our pets there by myself in the middle of winter, I don't drive in the snow unless I 100% have to because I have severe driving anxiety and the last time I drove I totaled my car while 6 months pregnant.
I am also really really bad at feeding myself which steams from childhood trauma as my parents withheld food as "punishment" for everything and always complained how overweight I was (120lbs).

I have delivery services for groceries for the kids but they still mostly breastfeed, and I am trying to go through everything so I have as little as possible to move. The Military will provide a moving truck and I don't have to worry about it getting to our new home so that does help.

Any advice on how to survive 5 months alone with 2 kids under 1? It's going to take 5 days to drive to California alone with the twins, our dog, and cats. The twins will be 11- 13 months old any suggestions on how to make the trip as easy as possible? I have been told to buy a lot of car seat safe snacks and get them new toys that I give them during the trip but that's all I can think of.

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Funded hours

Does anyone know the actual eligibility for 30 hours funded childcare in UK?
I’ve read it’s if you earn 100k or less a year but I know some people who aren’t eligible for it when they earn 30k or so
Super confusing
Any advice or information will be appreciated! 🙏🏻

Is this normal for a caring loving partner

Today, I came home around 10pm and found our daughter still awake, so I asked my boyfriend what had happened and whether she’d had her milk. He said he’d been busy and had given her snacks instead. When she asked for a banana, I said no because it was bedtime, but he still handed her the banana while it was still in its peel. I asked why he gave it to her, and he told me to stop questioning him. I explained that I was trying to understand and make sure we were on the same page. I then agreed to put our daughter to bed because I thought he had something he needed to do, but he was actually just sitting on his phone. I asked him to put her to bed so I could cook, ice a cake and prepare for my early start, I need to be up and out by 6am tomorrow morning, but he refused because we’d already agreed that I would do it. I asked again because I needed the help, but he still refused, so I put her to bed myself. Overall, I feel like whenever I ask questions or seek clarity, he feels questioned and becomes defensive, which leaves me feeling dismissed and frustrated.

Thoughts…

My husband is going to Spain over the weekend and for a few days in the week to help his cousin with an event. I can’t help but feel jealous. I’ve been doing the nights with my 4 month old and I really barely sleep at night. I get him to help but I have to wake him up to help sometimes over the weekend. I’m exhausted and just feel like he will be living his best life and leaving me with the 4 month old and toddler. Am I being selfish

Weaning

My baby will be 6 months in a couple of days we have just started introducing little bits of food as she was showing all signs of being ready. I gave her something last night, as well as baby porridge this morning and was going to give her something this evening also, and shes tried a baby blueberry waffer which she loves. I was just wondering is this too much for her only just being 6 months but shes really enjoying trying new foods. Shes having about a tablespoon in the morning and evening and im just letting her tell me when shes had enough usually she wont open her mouth if shes had enough as otherwise shes opening her mouth for it.

I hate my nursery

My son’s nursery saying staff spend too much time on photos, Tapestry and long feedback, so they’ll be reducing all of that. They want practitioners focused on the children, not admin, and parents should expect fewer updates unless something important happens. I don’t like that! I want updates

Struggling with solids

My baby is 9 months old & im still struggling to get him to eat. I really don’t see how by 12 months old he’ll be having 3 meals a day as he’s no where near that!

I’m lucky if he eats what I offer him, sometimes he’ll have a 2/3 spoonfuls and then he’ll have enough and refuse more. I usually offer food about 2 hours after a bottle, so I know it’s not his milk interfering. I’ve tried most things, finger foods & purées.

Is anyone else’s baby the same?