Husby is a walking red flag, an 3v!L spirit 🤮

I have a confession to make: I have access on his phone and discovered a lot of sh***y things.

First, he filed for an annual leave this Friday but he’s not telling me and it’s alredy approved, he works at night. I am still going to wait what he’s actually going to do then. If he’s going to pretend to be going to work- send photos or videos like he’s at work or miraculously say that he filed for a leave because until this day he’s not telling me and it is making me damn paranoid!

Secondly, he also did an extra weekend shift last Sunday for the first time stating that he’s been sick for few days and only gets statutory pay so he needs to catch up with by taking a shift on his day off. Checked his work app and it is not showing that he went for a weekend shift. God knows if the HR would even divulge if I ever ask.

Third and one of the most disgusting thing I had been anxious about was- him editing my mum’s photo into nudes, also some voyeur photos (taking shots of her undies) when we once went on a beach with my mom and family years ago. I don’t plan to tell my mum as it will become a world war z!

We have 2 kids: a 3 month old and an 8 yo. I work here in the UK under skilled worker visa, no community and no family/friends/relatives around. So i do admit, as much as i want to throw his ass off right away, i still rely on him specially with childcare. I still need to wait for my baby’s passport to be sorted that needs his presence, after that I could decide to make him leave.

I got no one else to talk to about these sensitive matters. 😓 please send some hugs and prayers 💕

in our community

Funded hours

Does anyone know the actual eligibility for 30 hours funded childcare in UK?
I’ve read it’s if you earn 100k or less a year but I know some people who aren’t eligible for it when they earn 30k or so
Super confusing
Any advice or information will be appreciated! 🙏🏻

Is this normal for a caring loving partner

Today, I came home around 10pm and found our daughter still awake, so I asked my boyfriend what had happened and whether she’d had her milk. He said he’d been busy and had given her snacks instead. When she asked for a banana, I said no because it was bedtime, but he still handed her the banana while it was still in its peel. I asked why he gave it to her, and he told me to stop questioning him. I explained that I was trying to understand and make sure we were on the same page. I then agreed to put our daughter to bed because I thought he had something he needed to do, but he was actually just sitting on his phone. I asked him to put her to bed so I could cook, ice a cake and prepare for my early start, I need to be up and out by 6am tomorrow morning, but he refused because we’d already agreed that I would do it. I asked again because I needed the help, but he still refused, so I put her to bed myself. Overall, I feel like whenever I ask questions or seek clarity, he feels questioned and becomes defensive, which leaves me feeling dismissed and frustrated.

Thoughts…

My husband is going to Spain over the weekend and for a few days in the week to help his cousin with an event. I can’t help but feel jealous. I’ve been doing the nights with my 4 month old and I really barely sleep at night. I get him to help but I have to wake him up to help sometimes over the weekend. I’m exhausted and just feel like he will be living his best life and leaving me with the 4 month old and toddler. Am I being selfish

Weaning

My baby will be 6 months in a couple of days we have just started introducing little bits of food as she was showing all signs of being ready. I gave her something last night, as well as baby porridge this morning and was going to give her something this evening also, and shes tried a baby blueberry waffer which she loves. I was just wondering is this too much for her only just being 6 months but shes really enjoying trying new foods. Shes having about a tablespoon in the morning and evening and im just letting her tell me when shes had enough usually she wont open her mouth if shes had enough as otherwise shes opening her mouth for it.

I hate my nursery

My son’s nursery saying staff spend too much time on photos, Tapestry and long feedback, so they’ll be reducing all of that. They want practitioners focused on the children, not admin, and parents should expect fewer updates unless something important happens. I don’t like that! I want updates

Struggling with solids

My baby is 9 months old & im still struggling to get him to eat. I really don’t see how by 12 months old he’ll be having 3 meals a day as he’s no where near that!

I’m lucky if he eats what I offer him, sometimes he’ll have a 2/3 spoonfuls and then he’ll have enough and refuse more. I usually offer food about 2 hours after a bottle, so I know it’s not his milk interfering. I’ve tried most things, finger foods & purées.

Is anyone else’s baby the same?