Feel so guilty. How to deal with defiance?

So my 2 year old has been messing with the buttons on the washing machine all morning and cancelling cycles or pausing them. I had enough and shouted and blocked the washing machine with my legs but he kept trying to get past and press the buttons. I got so fed up of his defiance I slapped his hand away and shut him out of the kitchen. He cried so much. I feel awful....i dont know what else I could have done...i need to get washing done on rare dry days in the UK!

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All you can do is apologise and move on. Just start modelling that behaviour even if he’s too young to understand. Also, my washing machine has a way to lock the buttons once it’s on, have you checked if yours can do that? Why do they love washing machines so much 😅

Is he doing it because he likes the buttons / sounds / it’s interesting ?? Maybe you could get him a little washing machine or give him an old remote without the batteries to try deflect or let him press the buttons once the washing is finished or before it’s been put on to get it out his system and try explain why we don’t touch it and that it can be dangerous unless you say so ?

Im a private nanny & was a nursey practitioner & now soon to be mum so I understand it’s really hard and you can get wound up /overwhelmed / annoyed especially by this but your doing the best you can and that’s all that matters !! You got this

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