Advice on disobedience
Ladies, I’m really needing some advice on how we should be disciplining our boy (or if we even should)
For context, Christianity is new to our family. We’ve been working hard this year on our faith and recently started attending church.
My almost 6 year old is very strong willed. I don’t want to change who he is, but sometimes I wonder whether we’re doing him more harm than good and he won’t turn into a nice person.
Today at church a group of children were outside playing and a lady called them all in. My son goes in then decides he wasn’t done and went back. Even went straight past me did not listen when I said no. He said he didn’t care and was going anyway. I had to follow him with my toddler and get him to come back in. I was so angry (I’m working on this) and honestly so embarrassed that he was the only child acting like this.
Please help me understand what to do with strong willed children. I’ve tried taking things away, explaining things calmly, giving him space and time in his room. I don’t want to be a “you must obey your parent” mum but also, I like you still have to listen to your parents right?! 🫠🫠
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Sometimes I teach my kids by treating them the same way they treated me. Next time he wants you to come to him, walk right past him and say you don't care to see or hear what he's talking about. He might be confused, or get angry, sad...depends on him...but then explain-hey, I just wanted to show you how you made mommy feel at church. The way we treat each other causes feelings. Is this how you wanted to feel when you called for me? No? This isn't how me or your church teacher wanted to feel when you walked away from us.
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