I have a 2yo toddler and I’m thinking about getting him a reward chart. I’ve done a bit of reading and it looks like there are split opinions on whether they are good or bad for development. I’d welcome any advice people have their own experience or research ♥️
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Theyre effective but they motivate good behaviour because they will get something out of it rather than its the right thing to do. But tbh who believes a 2 or 3 year old can reason to that extent? I used reward charts for sleep training and potty training

I found they lost their appeal and stopped working after a week or two. I tried changing the stickers but it didn’t matter. He was tired of the sticker chart.

As a teacher of almost 2 decades I have never used them with my kids and don’t plan to. I think in *some* circumstances with school aged children they can be helpful if a student needs visual and more frequent feedback than is typical in the school setting.
Ideally though we want to create intrinsic motivation for doing things rather than extrinsic. If you’re going to do it with a 2 year old you need to make sure your expectations are developmentally appropriate. Like having a toddler have to clean up their toys every day for a week straight and then get a sticker is not appropriate. The task/time period has to be VERY SHORT for this age. What exactly are you wanting to use it for?

We tried but after a few days my daughter wasn't interested as it wasnt new/fun anymore..waste of money personally!

Initially theyre good but I think the novelty wears off quickly
Last night while playing and having some nakey time without a nappy on my little girl who’s just turned 2 said “I want my potty” so I told her to go get it. She bought her potty into her bed room, sat down and went poop. I was shocked because she’s only been playing with the potty up-to now, she’s never done a wee in it and if anything she usually would get nervous whilst sitting on it as I think she was worried she wasn’t aloud to do a wee or poop despite my encouragement.
It’s has been sat in my bathroom for weeks not being looked it never mind used, so for her to actively go fetch it as she wanted a poop AND use it correctly, I’m shocked! 🤯
I gave her loads of praise, big smiles but she looked worried she’d done a “stinky” on the potty and was upset. Yet she’s the one who wanted to do it??? Im confused what to do about it. Personally I don’t think she’s ready to start potty training but the kid just independently took herself off to use it so perhaps I’m wrong?
How would you play these next steps? Or would you do nothing as it might have been just a one off?
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Unless your child has SEND, it is 100% just LAZY parenting.
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Im wondering mom's what age did you all start giving solid foods !!

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