Apart from circumstances where the child isn’t able to be, it is unacceptable for a 3 year old to not be potty trained.

Yes, I agree that if your child doesn't have additional needs, then your child should 100% be potty trained, be 3 years old. It's not easy, it's takes time and effort, and some children then go through regressions and youre back at square 1, this is when alot of parents say "they aren't ready" and put them back in nappies, personally I think the older they get the harder it gets because they're more head strong and not willing to cooperate.

My first was potty trained at 2 years old. My second is 21 months old, and I'm starting with him next week

There are so many other circumstances other than additional needs that could delay potty training.

I was pregnant whilst trying to potty train my eldest and physically couldn't do it. We had to hold off until I was a few weeks postpartum. He was 3. He looked 5. People probably thought "why is that 5 year old in nappies" but he was freshly 3.

There could be circumstances unrelated to the child, where the child 'looks' perfectly capable of being potty trained by 3, but behind closed doors there may be family trouble, unstable housing, financial struggle, meaning parents can't just keep buying different potties until one sticks (we had 3 before my son decided he liked one!) The child could have other health conditions you can't see, their parents may have health conditions, maybe it's a single parent with several kids who is just trying their best and waiting until the child is more on board with the idea.

It's better to just mind your own child and not worry too much about what others are doing..

Girls and boys are different, but I’d say if the kid isn’t potty trained by 4 then it’s a lack of trying, if they are perfectly developed.

It's not unacceptable unless you're sending the child to school.

Regression is a thing, life's circumstances are too, I can agree by 4, my 3 year old relationship with poop is mind blowing 🫣

I think 4, should be completely day time trained.
The advice has changed so much even just recently. They used to say don't even bother with boys until at least 3! Now they say to sit both on potty from 4 months

I’m convinced that modern day brain washing of “your child isn’t ready” or don’t bother till 3-4 was created by diaper companies. It is straight up child abuse if you child is in diapers at certain age. I think everyone should start at about 12/13 months or even earlier

Okay does potty trained mean they can wipe their own ass to? Or does that just mean they can tell you or know themselves when they need to go potty. Can someone leave some real advice for the lazy non potty training moms like myself? My son is 2 years and 5 months old. Still wears diapers he can tell me when he poops in his diaper most of the time he sits on the potty when we sit on the potty we sing and talk to him about it but im not sure how to move on to the next step? PLEASEEEE Ladies with little boys give ya girl some advice

My daughter is 3, not potty trained (also not ready to be), and is autistic, so I don’t have much experience outside of that but I’d say 3 is still young!
A lot of kids in her class only just potty trained over the summer holidays, and some still aren’t 💩 trained, so I’d say 4 is probably more of a realistic age to start being concerned.
But for the most part, if it’s not your child it’s probably not your business, unless it’s alongside other wellbeing concerns.

Urgh when are we going to stop calling each other lazy? As a primary school teacher, I can assure you, no parent wants to send their child to school still in nappies. We live in a completely different world now. There are so many variables to this. Outside of the SEND argument, we live in a society where the majority of parents both work. I was lucky, I had a 6 week summer to potty train my boy. Without that I don’t know when we would have got it done. I just think we need a little more compassion and little less judgment.

What a load of bollocks

Like 90% of babies in the 1950s were potty trained by 18months. Babies havent changed since then, all that's happened is people are less motivated because they dont have to wash cloth nappies out!