An old friend who was flaky is liking my social media and texted to tell me she published a book

I've already given up on the friendship because it was so one-sided, it was all about her it was all about being an audience to her and everything happening in her life.

Story of my Life where most female friends only become friends with me because it makes them look popular meanwhile if we hang out all I hear is about their traumas. There's never any real interest or even questions about our lives and if we happen to have gotten sick and couldn't agree to an outing it never seemed to be an acceptable response

I'm just so confused at female friendships and I just need to hear the truth once and for all. Am I just falling for poor friendships what are they even supposed to feel like because personally I honestly feel they should be reciprocal and there should be genuine interest back and forth

So this old friend saw my Instagram story posts and like them and then texted saying we're doing great and that she published a book and to check it out

And I'm just like okay. Again it's still all about her right?

I'm trying to understand if I'm seeing things clearly or not

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She's def only texting you so you can read her book. I hate those kind of ppl too. Idk why they only care about themselves but it is what it is. Just ignore her!

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One thing I learned a long time ago is that people want listeners in their lives. Mostly everyone wants someone to listen to them and people want to vent. Even if that means for a friendship it’s all about one person.
I think at people like us that want reciprocated friendships and to be listened to and understood struggle.
I think finding true friendships takes time, years and patience and also what you’re willing to tolerate just like all relationships.

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Where’s my yappers at?!

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If you’re on here begging for a friend and then use one word replies and then ghost. . You’re WEIRD. . And this app isn’t for you. . IDK about you . But I’m on here to make REAL friends that are capable of holding a conversation!… and NOT talking about themselves the ENTIRE time. . Girl bye. 👋..

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Sorry buttt.... BDAYS AND CHRISTMAS

What are we buying??????

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