Sudden refusal to sleep in own room
It all started last week when we were on holiday, my daughter who has slept in her own room and bed since 4 months old is now refusing to go to sleep and either repeats she isn't tired or wants to sleep in our bed (We've only let her do this really rarely as she's such a fidget). The only thing that will stop her (,without letting her have what she wants) is for me to stay beside her and then leave when she's asleep...but this is taking hours. Her sleep was fine before and she's been good in a toddler bed since Jan 2026.
Her command of language is really good and so I don't think it's nightmares but she will scream the place down for me to come. She still stays in bed till I come but I think if I left it too long she'll get out.
I also have a six month old who I breastfeed at night, so between them, if this continues, I'm not going to get any sleep 😖 and I start work again next week.
Am I doing the right thing not letting her in our bed? Anyone's just three year old doing/done the same and come out the other side?
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Really normal around this age for them to want company and reassurance in the night.
Personally we co-sleep and other than waking for a wee he sleeps through no issues. My toddler sleeps with dad and baby with me.
The fact it’s taking hours to get her back to sleep would suggest she isn’t tired enough.
Is she still napping? If so probably time to drop it and if not bedtime likely needs to be a bit later. If she’s good with language and telling you she’s not tired.. I’d probably be inclined to listen.
On hols did you all share a room? Could also be she’s realised you spend a lot of time with baby in the night and not her x
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