Dummy Removal - Help/Guidance please 🙏
Morning! I hoping there’s some other parents like me and in the same situation or out the other side. 🤞🏼
We were advised to remove by a dentist as they were just starting to move, so to avoid further moving to remove before her next appt. UK based.
*Our LO is 2 (end Aug) and only has dummy for naps and bedtime alone for a long time*
We removed our LO dummy Friday AM, ahead of nap and bedtime via the dummy fairy. We have completed night 4.
Day 1 - Went slightly better than we anticipated (a lot of asking for a dummy’s)
Day 2 - Nap refusal but 4+ night wakes (no mention of dummy) awake for the day 05:10am
Day 3 - Nap Refusal, but did end up napping following a car journey. Bedtime then had further 3 night wakes (no mention of dummy’s) awake for day 05:25
Day 4 - THE WORST OF IT ALL. Fought for 40 mins for nap, did nap for 1hr14. Then bedtime, seemed to ‘settle’ better mentioned dummy 6 times. Went to sleep after 45mins but then woke at 23:30 for 1hr15mins distressed, tantrums and not even about dummy. This then happened again at 04:01. (Awake for the day)
Bedtime is in normal window 7pm-8pm but morning wake time is now very pre 6am. (5:00-5:30)
We are struggling, our little one is distressed and struggling with lack of sleep. Is anyone able to provide guidance and assistance on how long their LO’s took.
I’m not looking for judgement or mean comments that I have seen in the past to other parents. I’m just a parent wanting to hear some humanised stories. Thank you in advance. 💓💓
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I think most dentists typically want it gone before 3. Some say way earlier but some kids just aren’t ready or it’s way more difficult to do. Because yall are on night 4 it might be easier to continue not doing it. But I also think doing the fairy and thing doesn’t work that well for my kids and probably others. My kids wouldn’t care that someone wanted to take it. I would suggest trying to have them wean on their own. For both my kids we cut little holes in it. And after a few days we would make the hole bigger and then a little bigger a few days after. And then hopefully child would be like it’s broken I don’t want it so they throw it away on their own. For my daughter she’s 3 in October and i’ve been meaning to wean her for a while and I’m pregnant so I wanted to do it before baby. We did the hole thing but she still used it. But she was old enough that I finally told her she’s a big girl and she doesn’t need it anymore. We would try without it and if she woke in the middle of the
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