Toddler reward jar

I had a similar feeling when I started ours cause she gets ‘treats’ quite often but it still seems to work. She gets the satisfaction and pride from earning a star and getting to put it in the jar and I asked her what she wanted when it was full and she told me she wanted a cake. So although she has sweet treats and cakes anyway, because she got to pick herself it’s more special to her if that makes sense x

I have a 4 yr old and I can tell you that they get used to what you introduce them to she has gotten used to that routine now but if you decide to change it up a little that’s ok I wouldn’t stop completely buy her gifts when she does good things like potty training,cleaning up toys ,or other things that relate to her achieving her goals they learn so fast if my daughter does good in school I take her to the store to choose what she wants or something simple like a kids meal she loves McDonald’s but if it’s a bad day then I take away something she likes and tell her she needs a green sticker to get it back she knows green is good red is bad yellow is ok but enjoy those days they grow so fast I don’t call it spoiling you just love you’re just loving daughter that’s all

Rewards could be things like going to the zoo, aquarium, children’s museum. I would just avoid using food based rewards

I'm not sure if you want my opinion here but personally, I don't do 'rewards' with mine. He is 4 tomorrow.

We clean up toys because that's just what we do etc

I think just buying them something nice because 'I thought you'd enioy this' is enough so do that if you want, but maybe limit so she doesn't expect so much.

I might sometimes say " we're going to the playcentre because you've worked really hard at xyz ' this week. Last week I took him to 'celebrate' his first full week in nursery. Usually, it's a treat for all of us like a day out. Maybe a cake from the shop, just because. Not a reward treat, just a treat because everyone likes a treat now and then . He might buy a toy with some pocket money or a book cos I thought it looked good

The thing I find with rewards is once u start giving them, they expect them for things they should be doing anyway e.g tidying up when actually just 'well done' or making it fun is sometimes good enough .